Do you think that it is normal for people to cut off all of their friends when they begin a serious relationship?
This has been a consistent issue between myself and many friends of mine, both male and female, and I've even lost some acquaintances because of it. Should I just get over it and give them the space to enjoy their new significant other, or is it bullsh!t that they drop their life for some guy/gal?
2006-12-05 16:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by [ a. j. ] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As we go through life we make choices. I have always stayed true to friends despite any relationships only to be dumped at a later date by the same friends.
It hurts but there is nothing you can do so move on.
2006-12-09 09:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a TRUE friend would not abandon you for a 'relationship'. The saddest situation is when friends lose the trust thats been built up - a fixation with a 'bed partner' to put it bluntly, can cause irreversible damage to a true friendship. If the romance doesn't last, what then?, no friend either. Decency in the way you treat people shouldn't need to be explained should it.
2006-12-06 09:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it is a question of anyone cutting anybody off.
At the start of any relationship, people want to spend time with the new person in their life, get to know them, share things.
Then when the reltionship has been established, I would expect your friend(s) to introduce their partner to you, in the hope that you all become friends.
It just a question of being patient, & understanding the situation.
2006-12-05 20:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think whatever happens happens for a reason. i would do the same thing. you need to realize that when someone gets involved in a serious relationship that they are focusing on only one person, their significant other. friends can get in the way of a developing relationship sometimes. just give them the room they need for a little while and then be friends again. respect them for who they are, not what they do, ok?
2006-12-05 16:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...i grew up with my best mate from age 3....we went through everything together...some bad some good....she has been in alot of unhealthy relationships and i have always been there to pick up the pieces every time...and she has been there for me through some really ugly times...over 2 years ago she finally met a decent guy who was stable...hard working and caring, he treated her like a queen...i have not heard from her since...she moved out of town to run a business with him...i really miss her...but i do wish her the best and hope she is happy with him, he's the only one who has treated her like a real person and not some dirty hand rag....i wish she would contact me, i need to tell her about my grandson.....i don't have her number any more either..oh well maybe one day i will meet up with her again...she must be happy, otherwise she'd be back here, and i would certainly be there for her no matter what.....
2006-12-05 23:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend and give them a little space. Be happy for them.
If they avoid you totally, maybe they weren't good enough friends anyway.
Its does stink to be in a situation like that, but it seems pretty normal.
2006-12-05 16:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by enticingmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what a lot of people do when they find a partner, they do tend to drop their mates. Then when the relationship ends,they come back around,,,i guess thats human nature.
2006-12-06 08:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's life an a bet you would do the same if you met some one you loved you can see your friends any time you want but when you meet some one you love that's the only person you want to be around.
2006-12-05 16:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks...some guys/girls when their dating they act worser than married people. they spend every single time together. me, i can't do that. i need to make time for my friends...especially if i break up with my bf..who'll will get me through it. i guess its just your luck. any friend that puts her bf over your friendship is no "true" friend. I've experienced this. for instance, i have a friend who calls her bf everyday. me, she never calls me. only when she has a problem with her bf. i just stopped talking to her b/c its not right.
2006-12-05 17:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do it.
2006-12-09 02:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋