Im almost to my due date, Friday. For some reason I didn't sleep last night and all day today I've felt so sad... almost like discouraged. I know during pregnancy hormones are crazy but I don't wanna feel this way. I've had a very happy pregnancy, I'm just ready for it to be over, I'm ready to hold my baby in my arms. I've found myself crying several times today and I don't know why. I guess I don't really have a question I just need to express my feelings. But anything I could do to feel better?
2006-12-05 16:04:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You sound just fine! Normally I would react to anytelltale signs of depression but this simply sounds like a bad day. It is soooo hard to wait and the hormones, the weight gain, the anxiety and stress all play huge factors. It may make you feel better to do a craft of some sort for now, something for you, your baby, your husband, or all three. Starting a collage is always a good idea. You don't need a book to begin scrapbooking - use paper and markers and your imagination. I know it's difficult to move around much; how about taking photos of your tummy and beginning a baby book to fill when he/she comes? I am not the most creative person in the world for sure, but anything small you can do to take up the time from now until Friday - even watching movies and making up songs to sing (the baby will probably love the vibration of song inside you) should help clear up your mind. Pat out a good rhythm lightly on your stomach and see how the baby enjoys it (although if the kicking continues for more than a half hour I would change the tune:) Work with your hands as much as you can. Crosswords are awesome, read some good magazines - get your head into a juicy book. Don't feel guilty for getting upset or anxious. This stuff is hard! If the depression continues, call your doctor. It is a very natural feeling. All the best to you and yours, happy holidays, and CONGRATULATIONS!!! a few days in advance!
2006-12-05 16:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhh....(LOL).....
I think back to 10 months ago when I was in your shoes.
I cannot tell you how terrible the hormones are when you get close to your due date!
I promise you.....You will look back on this day and laugh (and CRY) about sleep deprivation and hormones and worries and impatience, and depression and wanting the baby OUT of there.
Please read this next sentence and remember it for AFTER you have the baby: If you feel depressed or suicidal after the baby is born, don't hesitate to go to the hospital immediately. Postpartum depression or even psychosis happens with little warning, and can end in your death or the baby's death. Look out for warning signs.
Also, tell your doctor about your sad feelings you are having right now. They might want to keep an eye on you a little more.
But for NOW, try to stop when you feel so crazy, and just put your feelings into context....you are losing valuable sleep, your hormones are out of control, and you have very valid worries about the future.
Take a deep breath, and SMILE. (It's almost over)
2006-12-06 00:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal! During both of my pregnancies, at times (ecspecially close to my due date) I'd find myself just sobbing and crying and feeling alone, upset, or just like I had failed horribly at something. It was horrible, but I never had a reason to be crying like that! All I could really do to make myself better was to watch bittersweet stories on lifetime so I'd have a good reason to cry but with promise of a happy ending, to write in a journal and then trash whatever I had written once I was feeling better, or else call up my mom and talk about trivial little things to get me sidetracked.
2006-12-06 00:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Suse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwww....that's tuff sweety. Where's your hubby? Lean on him as much as you need to. That's if he's the kind to let you do that.
You know, it's pretty understandable that you're feeling depressed or down. Is this your first child? If so, then you're probably so full of worries about so many things. Will the baby be fine? What if something happens? Am I strong enough to raise this child? All sorts of worrisome issues, eh?
Well, take heart that everything will probably be just fine. Everything is on your side. Hospitals and doctors are so prepared to deal with anything that may come up.
Let's be realistic though. In this day and age, postpartum depression seems to be on the rise. So don't delay. Keep your doctor apprised of your situation. My wife had PPD very badly, but with the administration of an anti-depressant as well as getting involved in a 'New Moms' group pulled her out of it very quickly.
That wee life that is inside of you is as anxious to be in your loving arms as much as you're anxious to hold it near to your heart. God is the creator of life and you are soon going to experience the beautiful opportunity to take care of one of the greatest gifts He has given us. We do not own our children. They're merely on loan to us to give us the awesome chance to show our ability to love and nurture.
I have a feeling you're exactly like that and soon you'll be able to show it by being a loving, caring mom. :)
God Bless you and the wee one and thanks for reading.
2006-12-06 00:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way. I was very excited for my daughter, but the smallest thing would upset me to tears, and I felt like screaming in frustration.
I would just sit down and tell myself what you are.. Stupid pregnancy hormones :-P I would pick up a book to get my mind off or it, or call a friend that I know would make me laugh.
Just relax and pamper yourself. Trust me, when that baby comes, you'll never get to sleep in again ;-)
2006-12-06 00:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by MtnBlossom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don feel sad and don worry. Everything will be fine and you are going to see your baby soon so think about that and be happy. Maybe you should go out shopping or visit your frens this will make you feel better.
2006-12-06 00:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by unfortunate gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to think about other things like christmas,take a warm
bath and relax,the baby will be here soon enough and then you will be busy,even then take time for yourself
pregnancy takes a toll on your body and mind ,pamper yourself and try not to worry about things youll be just
fine,take it day by day
goodluck
2006-12-06 00:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T BE ALONE FOR GODS SAKE! that's what happened to those ladys on the evening news got so far into depression one of them drowned all six kids in a bath tub.You may think your alright and I do understand but don't screw around with it.Get with some gals that have survived it and don't have more kids than you can take care of.
2006-12-06 00:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hey Mom, I'm sorry that you are feeling so sad! Please do me a favor. Smile! Sing a song to your baby. And most importantly, realize that things are wonderful & great. You're lucky that you are not me, sad, alone & missing my children at Christmas Time with no money to buy them gifts. All I can say is THANK YOU EX-WIFE FROM HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-06 00:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
maybe its because you sound anxious about the baby arriving? I mean you can't wait for it to arrive, and your just sitting around waiting and waiting and waiting... (I know how you feel!), try to relax and not get stressed
2006-12-06 00:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋