ok.
so I really get along with my friend's boyfriend a lot. I think he trustes me more than he trustes my friend. We always have good conversations, and I help him with his problems.
so now she's really mad at me.
does she have a reason to be mad? am i going to far?
oh, and i cant just ignore him... he sits right next to me for like 3 periods straight. he's always talking to me... and he gets sad when i dont talk to him
i dont wanna make her jealous... but at the same time i dont want to loose him as a friend because he's the only one that really listens to me
i dont like him... he's just a close frined!
just to make it straight... i do encourage him to go kiss her and also encourage him to talk to her (their relationship is that bad)
2006-12-05 15:56:37 · 11 answers · asked by jane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, girls are weird about this sort of thing. you are in the middle of the two of them. that is never a good thing to do. trust me- been there, done that. so, what i suggest doing is backing out of their relationship issues. try not to get so involved & sort of back out of their issues. still be friends with both, but just avoid getting inbetween them. so, you need to tell your girl friend in a sincere way how your friendship means so much to you & you have no interest in him in a more than friends way. the rest is up to her.
she probably sees that he likes you more than her. though it may be in a purely friends way. what is more important, your friendship with him or her? you may have to choose whether you want to or not. girls are petty & suck in this way sometimes. i have done it before... many times. its so easy to become intertwined in other peoples business when you are just trying to help. you end up screwing yourself in the process. good luck.
2006-12-05 16:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start being honest or you will end up hurting both of them. The guy maybe developing an affection for you, and as you said you do not like him, but your behaviour maybe saying otherwise. Tell him he has no chances on you if he is thinking otherwise. On the other hand, be honest to your friend too. Based on your many conversations with the guy, do you think he really likes her or is he just playing games? Tell her if she wil be better off without him or not and ask the guy to stop hurting your friend and to tell her the truth.
2006-12-06 00:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by sweetface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre probably gonna have to chose between the 2. if your girl-friend isn't comfy w/u being so close to her man. Which I'm sorry to say, I don't think I would be either only because of my past experiences w/my boy friends and my friends stabbing me in the back for the boy. Mayb u could talk to her and tell her ur all for their relationship and just like his friendship? If she don't go for it then u gotta chose. Sorry!
2006-12-06 00:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to come straight with him (by the way if he is a friend that means you DO like him, you just don't want a relationship with him.) Your going to have to tell him that YOU are off limits and that he HAS a girlfriend and SHOULD be confiding in her with all his problems. He really has no business coming to you with them and I can understand your friend's jealousies, only problem is that she is taking it out on you and not him. You need to be straight with her and tell her that it is HIM who comes to you and that you've told him to stop. However, I think he is more interested in you than he is her and HE should be straight with HER.
2006-12-06 00:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"their relatioship is that bad" gosh why do kids stick with a bad relationship??
And you need to STOP chatting with him. Ignore him. He will get the message. She is your friend. It has got to hurt her to see him talking more to you than her. Don't be part of her pain. Don't be too obvious, but just don't be so available to him.
You say that you are encouraging him to kiss her and talk to her.....you need to stop that NOW. The relationship is between her and him.....NOT you, her & him. Take yourself out of the triangle.
Stop haveing really good converstaions with him. If he asks why just tell him that you are his girlfrieinds friend and you feel uncomfortable with that. Take yourself out of the equasion
2006-12-06 00:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All three of you all get together, tell her that you respect her has a friend and that you don't want her man and she has nothing to fear from you. Then tell him that you just want to be his friend. Be truthful, you know lying wont get you no where. I hope this helps.
2006-12-06 00:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
careful---he may be forming an attachment to you. i can understand why your friend would be jealous. you may want to distance yourself from him for a while, or at least avoid speaking of any personal issues; if nothing else, this may make at least your girl friend happy.
2006-12-05 23:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Vae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok i get that u want to be friends with both of them this happend to me also. talk to ur friend if shes a good friend then she'll understand
good luck!!
2006-12-06 00:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to respect your friend enough to stop talking to him. Just bluntly explain that you're honoring her.
2006-12-05 23:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she has every right to be mad at you, and you are certainly not her friend!
2006-12-06 00:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋