Recently, I've had a new boss at work who started out friendly and is now very difficult to work with and the majority of the workload is on me. I scheduled a meeting with HER supervisor to discuss the situation - not to be disrespectful, but just so that she can give her professional insight and handle the situation appropriately. Meanwhile, I was extremely upset for having to work 2 hours overtime because my boss never reported back to the office to relieve me as she was suppose to. My cousin and friend picked me up from work and I was pissed and was discussing my situation with them and of all the damn luck, my cell hit redial for work and she picked up and heard EVERYTHING. We had to have a meeting and all of our issues were addressed and she says she's not going to hold a grudge and I did apologize for not expressing myself to her and that she had to find out that way.
What other measures can I take to remedy the situation, or is the damage too much?
2006-12-05 15:45:31 · 10 answers · asked by mistyerious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You apologized. That's good enough. It's naive of her to think you don't complain about things with your friends and family. If anything, she should have hung up as soon as she realized what she was hearing. You have a right to your privacy.
If she had overheard you through a wall or something, I would say wait to discuss work issues that are upsetting you with friends until you're out of the office.
Your meeting with her supervisor was not the right thing to do at all in my opinion. You should have gone to your boss first. If nothing happened, THEN you should have gone to her supervisor. Starting out by going over her head undermines her authority and, while a slipup like that can be overlooked in a long term relationship, it's pretty 'slap in the face' when it happens at the beginning.
All of this could have been avoided if you'd skipped all of the steps you listed and just had the meeting with her to begin with.
I honestly think the only thing you'll do by bringing it up again by trying to remedy it more is upset her. Just let it go and try not to make the mistake of forgetting the chain of command again.
2006-12-05 16:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything else except to do my job everyday. Now that her supervisor knows what's going on and everything is out in the open, she'll probably be watched more carefully, especially if other employees are having problems, too.
Maybe this is the first time she's the boss and she got a bad start. Give her a second chance, but also don't give her anything to bust you for. Be on time, do everything you're supposed to do, and see how things go.
After a while, if you're still unhappy, you may have to switch to another department, find a whole new job, or talk to her supervisor again if things are bad.
And make sure your cell phone is turned off from now on! :)
2006-12-05 15:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by TeacherLady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is dependent: are you convinced with matters as they stand? i.e., for those who -do not- say something, will you be k with that? I'm guessing the reply isn't any - for those who had been k with letting matters "fizzle out" you most commonly would not be requesting recommendation, might you? Seems to me like you wish to have - and deserve(!) - closure. Even if he hadn't long past again to his ex, for those who men were severely courting then IMO it used to be mistaken for him to only "abandon" you. Maybe having a speak with him in which you simply inform him that for something cause - be it that he is seeing any individual new, simply been 'busy,' or whatnot - it is visible that you just 2 simply are not "in combination" to any extent further so it would be first-rate for those who formally "broke up." Maybe doing some thing like that might a) make it transparent to him that he will not count on to regard you favor that and also have you to "fall again on" if/whilst he demands to, and b) (extra importantly!) provide YOU the closure you have to placed this dating in the back of you so you'll be able to transfer on. Good good fortune =)
2016-09-03 11:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by alienello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go back to normal work.. She said she won't hold a grudge and you apologized. If she accepted it, then there is nothing more to do,, no damage is too much for what has been accepted.
2006-12-05 16:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in a bad shape mate, they alwayz say that they wont retaliate but they do, if you can, get out before you get fire. As for the change of her behavior, you need to know that sometimes new boss like to bring in their people from the previous job and if are on the spot she want to give her body from the old job, you're in it for longer days. good luck
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2006-12-05 15:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by monreve_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her give a job description to everyone so the duties of each postion will be clarified. Then if you get extra work you can possibly get a raise instead of feeling resentful.
2006-12-05 15:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mention it to her again. Just go in, act like nothing happened, and get your work done. Just do what you get paid to do. She's middle management, so these mealy mouthed tactics should sit very well with her.
2006-12-05 16:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept 75% of her current workload and all will be forgiven.
2006-12-05 15:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to HR and ask them what can you do in such situation.
2006-12-05 15:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your cell phone out of the office...
2006-12-05 15:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋