Women, have you ever wondered what it'd be like to have a househusband?

Question

That loved you and supported you in all the ways that many housewives have loved and supported their husbands for years?

Please dont bother too much with the failures/sloths. Men are not privy to such things, there are ample housewives who outcrude any number of men in terms of being lazy etc. Men are generally new to the profession, I'll bet most have never even considered it.

Answer 1

I knew one!
A couple of young people that I knew had a baby and the mom was the one with the good job so dad became the stay-at-home parent and homemaker. It was quite an eye-opener. He was very good at it. He did all the things that the women did. He exchanged recipes with the other moms as we waited to pick up our kids after school, felt that he needed to bring money into the home and kept finding jobs that didn't work out and never paid much. His wife said he was driving her crazy because she would come home from work, tired, and he would be glad to have her home and looking forward to conversation and playtime. She said that she had to insist that he find a hobby before he drove her nuts!
He was a VERY masculine man, very athletic and physical. She was very feminine, gentle and missed being home very much. So I found that while it was possible and an interesting way to live, they were not as content with the situation as they wished.

ADDITION:
Julia L., does he have a brother? ;o)

Answer 2

Well I have to say as a STAY AT HOME DAD, it ain't easy but I am glad to do it. it opens my eyes to what my mom had with 6 kids, and I just got two.
My wife and I were both working making bank when we had our second child. Then she got a promotion and a transfer. Well she was making more then I was so we decided that I would stay home with the kids. That was 3 years ago. And while the house is not always clean as we would want it (after all we have kids) we are happy. And I cook (professional chef)
I think a REAL man is one that can look at his family's situation and know what it is he needs to do. Regardless of what joebob at the auto shop or Flo at walmart thinks. If it requires him to stay home and care for his kids then as a MAN that is what I will do. Not send them to some day care just so I can fulfill some macho image that my buddies think I need to be. Besides I have a 7 year old that is one hell of a fisherman because his daddy takes him every chance we get. And a 2 year old little girl that will not be afraid of getting on a kayak with her dad to fish.
Of course I miss working. I still need the out side stimulation of adult conversation, but this wont last forever and I will go back. But maybe this time I will do what I want to do.

Answer 3

Somewhere, with some couples, it might work. I've never seen it work here in the Midwest USA.

You assume that men and women are wired the same, just given different expectations by our culture. That might sound good in a college psych class, or in a women's studies class, in practice I can't find a single culture where men and women have interchangeable roles.

Rightly or wrongly, men are judged (and judge themselves) by their ability to work and earn a living. You can call a man many things, but the one that is sure to get a fight is calling him "lazy." And, a stay at home househusband would certainly be thought to be lazy by his peers (and a good number of women).

Likewise, women still judge themselves by the appearance of their house and the condition and conduct of their children.

Perhaps the best you can hope for here is a man whose career is secondary to yours, who will support you and make sacrifices so you can do what you need to do to maximize your job potential.

Answer 4

No way! I want a guy who has a job . Guys who have jobs can be supportive and loving as well. A househusband would be boring. Could end up in a marriage breakup for some.

Answer 5

I have pondered this in the past and of the belief that a husband would not be capable of doing a half decent job. What I would really want is a housewife. Then some guy to come over occassionally, provide the one service he is good for and leave before he makes too much mess for my wife to clean up.

Answer 6

My husband is a full-time student and househusband, and he's great. :) No, the house isn't spotless all the time, but I work nights, and he has dinner ready when I get up, makes sure I have clean clothes to wear, there's food waiting for me when I get home in the morning, even if he's gone to school, the floor is vacuumed, the lawn is mowed, the garbage has been taken out, etc, etc. :) He's awesome.

Answer 7

I sure have! I would love to have had a house-husband
when I worked. It would have been heaven to have come home to the aroma of dinner cooking, house clean, laundry done & put away. The trick would be to find a good house-husband. I would hope he would be better than I would have been as a housewife.

Answer 8

Women don't want a househusband, as the role of women have changed in society, women are not very supportive of men changing their roles. Most women view men who do that kind of work as essentially worthless, they want to be the one to not have a job and stay home all day.

Answer 9

are you bragging it out?

I don't venture outside my house' and I never dreamed of having another job. but I'm proud to say, I'm making money without having to work with bosses who really are pain in the asses and subordinates that always green with envy and bent on getting your seat! aside from that, I always have time for my kids 24 hrs a day. and I see to it that, my wife don't have to worry 'bout anything that might stress her more...

Answer 10

Uh, I had one and divorced him 3 years later. He refused to get a job. He didn't clean, he didn't cook, he laid around the house. Bum. So if anyone is thinking in that direction, don't go there.