sorry... I asked for advice 3 times already... but I really need help?

Question

ok.
so I really get along with my friend's boyfriend a lot. I think he trustes me more than he trustes my friend. We always have good conversations, and I help him with his problems.

so now she's really mad at me.
does she have a reason to be mad? am i going to far?


oh, and i cant just ignore him... he sits right next to me for like 3 periods straight. he's always talking to me... and he gets sad when i dont talk to him


i dont wanna make her jealous... but at the same time i dont want to loose him as a friend because he's the only one that really listens to me


i dont like him... he's just a close frined!

just to make it straight... i do encourage him to go kiss her and also encourage him to talk to her (their relationship is that bad)

Answer 1

I'll be honest with you. Deep down, you probably like the attention. It probably makes you feel good to think that just maybe, he likes you better than your friend. And you know what?? That's completely normal. It's just human instinct. But now that you're aware of it, you have to act to keep it from continuing.
Put yourself in your friend's shoes. You probably wouldn't be too happy, either. Especially since he "gets sad" when you don't talk to him. Just because we do things with honest or good intentions, doesn't mean that it won't hurt someone else.
Can you move your seat in class? If not, you need to decide whose friendship is most important to you.
And you should probably choose your femal friend b/c you sound pretty young, and trust me....She will never let it go if you don't. You'll have to deal w/ her not liking you all through school.
So just tell the guy that he needs to leave you alone. Tell him that you just don't feel right talking to him so much when he's with your friend.
He may get all sad faced on you, but trust me. He'll get over it. Guys always do. And you'll save face w/ your friend and all of her friends.
Good luck!!

Answer 2

If you two are just friends, there isn't any need to feel bad about anything. You can't fix something that's already broken. Your g/f sounds like she has insecurity problems. Her b/f seems like he can trust you enough to talk to you about it, plus knowing you are her friend too. But for her to get mad at you? That's not a friend. Guess she's gonna be mad at every girl he talks to - even if it's hi and bye or something pertaining to school. If you and him are that cool, that's what friends are for - but at the same time, seems like you need to make more friends. A real friend would trust you. Keep that in mind.

Answer 3

If you have no interest in him for anything other than friendship then explain that to your friend and if she still has issues then it is just that...issues. Talk to him and make sure he is not hoping something happens with you two as well. He may be wanting a little booty on the side. If he is only friendly and you are only friendly then your friend needs to work on trust!

Answer 4

she probably thinks there is something going on between you two and if thats not the case just write her a note and tell her you guys are just friends. he's not your type he's more of a guy friend but you still want to be friends with both of them just tell her that if she dont like it you will stop talking to him but just promise her there is nothing going on. I think she will believe you and everything will work out in the end. good luck

Answer 5

That close friends thing is one of the reasons he is dating YOUR FRIEND! She is supposed to be YOUR FRIEND, so why isn't she listening to you? Maybe you need some NEW FRIENDS. I know you don't like the answers, but you need to stop smilin and grinnin up your friends man's face and get you someone who will listen to you. You have to let your bestfriends boyfriend establish a connection with one another and not you trying to connect to her boyfriend, even on a platonic level. Find your own emotional jump off.

Answer 6

You need to tell you girl friend about it because she is already jealous already, and you don't know it already. You need to tell him that he is just a friend to you. Because I have a feeling that in the long run if he breaks up with your friend you will be the first person he would come to you since he is your friend. In the mean time you need to tell him I think you should hang with your girlfriend because is getting jealous. She might feel that she is felt left out. Plus guys comes and goes. Because if they break-up you will always be there for her. Remember guys come, and go, but you will always be there for her. So be a good friend to your friend, and he needs anything he should go to his g/f. Because in the long run he will always come to you. He probally is more interested in you than to his own g/f. So watch out because he might be interested in you.

Answer 7

Wow tough spot. to be a kid again...i would love it...Really though you should stay away from your friend's boyfriend. if he cannot ask his own girlfriend for help then why is he asking you. you should move yourself away from a situation where you could possibly lose two friends.
To rectify the situation talk to your friend. Not your boyfriend. tell her about your feelings toward your friend's boyfriend.
Listen to her then have a conversation with both of them and not one of them.
Also a great way to fix the problem would be to say listen if your boyfriend has a problem she cannot fix, please feel free to ask you. But only your girlfriend should ask you.

Answer 8

It sounds like your friend doesn't trust you with her man. You need to do what you want to do...if keeping him as a friend makes your other friend mad then so be it....sounds like the guy is the truer friend anyway since you said he is the only one that listens to you.

Answer 9

at least you have one friend that listens to you. you need to tell his gf that the two of you are just really close friends and that is all the two of you are and going to be. if you have to encourage him to kiss her, then their relationship must really suck!! maybe you should ask him or her if everything in their relationship is okay and to let you help either of them in any way that you can.

Answer 10

well first of all u sound more a a girlfriend to him then ur friend does. second, no ur not wrong at all it juss happens that u guys bond and its not ur fault u guys can relate to each other. lastly no, ur not going 2 far ur juss friends as u say. if ur freind cant understand that then she must not b a true friend.