Why do I take his porn-viewing habits personally? What can I do to stop being angry/sad/frustrated about him looking at porn? How can I be supportive? How can I stop taking it so personally?
We've fought over and over about porn. I don't like it. It hurts me so much. I've come to the point where I've pretty much accepted the fact that he's going to look at it. I've convinced him to stop hiding it. Now how do I get over it?
2006-12-05 15:26:34 · 11 answers · asked by Jill H 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Good point, Rxyuramek, it bothers me that he watches other women. Whether on not I like porn isn't so much the issue... I have some strong feelings when it some to women's equality and/or rights, but the issue at hand (regarding the fact that my boyfirend looks at porn despite knowing it hurts me) is what's really bothering me. I don't mind that porn exist culturally and I have no conscious moral standings against it.
2006-12-05 15:48:41 · update #1
if he looks at porn he is not giving you the respect you deserve
BREAK UP WITH HIM
there is someone much better out there for you who will respect you... not respect women who decide to strip online
would you be okay with him having sex with someone or going to strip clubs while he was going out with you?
i dont thing so
its the same thing
BREAK UP WITH HIM
HE IS A LOSER
2006-12-05 15:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Low self asteem makes it hard to enjoy things in like that are physically expressive! Something that might help you goth out is maybe watching it together or finding out what he likes about those girls in those acts and trying it together! It might boost your self asteem and maybe get him to really only watch it a few times a week instead of a few times a day! I can understand where your coming from though! It doesnt help that you feel like crap and that him doing it makes you feel like you look like crap! Since you started a fight with him it might be a great time to start the make up sex with that as a motivational tool! If you dont feel comfortable watching the porn with him, maybe just go through the web history and watch what he watches and think about trying them! Or you could do what I do sometimes and have sex with him even when you dont want to just to keep him from watching it lol!
2016-05-22 23:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ar bothered for three reasons:
1) Porn is very corrosive to a relationship becuase the people in them do not act that way in real life
2) You are threatened because those women will do ANYTHING for sex and you just won't (not that I can imagine any woman doing what they do)
3) His affections appear to be going in another direction, towards a fantasy woman he will never have
Have you decided to feed into it? Making sure that he gets his daily dose of porn? My reasoning is that he will hit a saturation point, where it is just not that exciting for him anymore.
2006-12-05 15:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get over it. Porno carries demon spirits. That is why even with his best intentions he cannot stop it alone. God is the only one who can give true deliverance. If you accept it, you will be accepting that demon in your home. Once that demon has made your home his, he will go and get other demons to come in as well. That will lead to problems too numerous to mention. One thing you do not want to compromise with is the devil. You, alone, cannot outwit him. He has been doing his job too long. His job is to steal, kill and to destroy. he comes in subtly at first. When you least expect........ Lord knows you don't want to rear kids in that environment. I know from experience(not thru porno, but sin is sin). You will only be hurt in the long run. If he won't quit, leave him. It is better to hurt now than to be devastated in the long run. That is why you can't get with that. Something in your spirit is already telling you it is wrong. That is God's Spirit telling you that. May God Bless
2006-12-05 15:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealously
Inadequecy
You probably feel like if I enough for you, why do you need porn. It's normal. But guys are horny bums. Best to get used to it and watch it with him and work with it and not against it because he will just hide it from you.
2006-12-05 15:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Koko Butta Kream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Reisling, if you can't learn to tolerate his porno habits then break up with him. Watching porn is not just for guys, most women do it too. Everyone needs to release sexual tension.
Ask yourself, do u hate porn or do u hate him watching other women. Ask him questions about why he needs to watch it.
2006-12-05 15:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoo Experience 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that with my boyfriend for a longggg time. I felt like he was comparing me to them. He didn't watch it often so I never told him that it bothered me. I was becoming so self-consicous about myself, but then one day out of the blue he told me that when he watches it he imagines me and him. So now every once in awhile we watch it together! Its actually a lot of fun ;) its normal to not like it tho.... just relax tho.
2006-12-05 15:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe you feel inadequate? I don't mind porn, I infact enjoy watching it...why don't you watch with him...you might learn a few things and learn to enjoy it.
2006-12-05 15:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** it all normal guys looks at porn...hes not showing you disrespect unless he has an external affair...its natural for him to watch porn...just join him next time...
2006-12-05 16:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to put up with it through marriage possibly cut him loose.
2006-12-05 15:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋