***for sons/daughters could u forgive ur dad if...?

Question

he got really mad at u and smaked u in ur face?i did this to my 15yo son and i feel terrible about it...but he says tht he forgives me. if ur father did this to u do u think u would b able to forgive him?

Answer 1

Nope. Id kick his butt.

Answer 2

I think I wouldn't trust my father when he was angry that much anymore.

Your son may have forgiven you, and I probably would forgive my father, but that doesn't mean that the trust is there anymore. It sounds like you have a problem if you are hitting your son when angry. Tell your son that you know it was really wrong.

If you continue to have anger management problems like this, get help. You may just want to get help for just hitting your kid. It might make him realize that you really feel bad for what you did.

Of course, if you aren't beating your child and only did it because they did something bad and needed to be punished, then I understand. But if you only smacked your son in the heat of an argument when it was not necessary, then get help.

Answer 3

Honestly it depends, if I knew I was wrong then I'd forgive him because perhaps I might of deserved that slap. Buttttt I truly believe that abuse is not the way to solve things..perhaps the argument could've been fixed w/ out the slap. I think that if my dad slapped me he'd lose my respect....However, i'd love my dad no matter what and in the end I know that whatever I did must've been the worst in order for him to lay a hand on me.

Answer 4

Don't feel bad James, you have asked for forgiveness and it has been given to you, so embrace it and don't dwell on what you did.
A word to the wise though, don't hit him in the face again, slaps are more degrading than being hit in any other part of your body and will be remembered for a long long time, if you are angry at him talk first and try to listen and if you want to hit something, hit a pillow instead.

Answer 5

If my dad did that to me and he really acted like it hurt him and he really looked sorry for what he did I would forgive him. If he just said yeah I am sorry and walked away then I wouldn't buy it! I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it and how it made you feel and ask him how he feels about it. I think it will make both of you feel better. I think you also need to talk about the reason you did it in the first place because now that is being masked by what happened after you did it.

Answer 6

My father has struck me many times, and the most consistent thing was that i was deserving of a smackdown. It does depend on how tough your son is. I was brought up pretty roughly but harbor no resentment towards my father. It was simple, step out of line get punished. I dont encourage this type of upbringing but most children (especially if they know what they did was wrong) understand the parents anger. For example how would they have reacted in the situation reversed??? Perhaps differently perhaps not.
In short i knew my father was not out to abuse me, it concerned only discipline and respect. If he has learnt this then good, if he has not then hitting him will not encourage his learning anything. All people learn differently its important to remember this when considering discipline for your children. I would also suggest that you do not beg for forgiveness, you need only ask for it. The maturity of your son will determine when he will give it.

Answer 7

My mother slapped me once, I think I was around 13 or 14 years old. Yeah, the slap itself stung and whelped, but what hurt more was knowing she was that pissed off at me, and knowing all the things she said to me prior to the slap....

I never really forgave her, and my relationship with her still stinks. But, I guess as a plus for her, I didn't argue with her anymore (then again, we didn't talk much period, still don't).

First, let both your anger deflate, and then let him know how sorry you truly are (by words, not by bribing of any kind--my mom tried that approach), and explain to him how you got so frustrated to begin with, and admit that your anger got out of hand. Kids know when you're being completely honest, and they can also tell when you're holding back. To save your relationship with your son, don't hold back on this. Let him know that you know you hurt him in more ways then one (physically, emotionally), and let him tell you how that makes him feel. (He'll feel valued, and understood.) Let him ask questions, answer them truthfully, and don't forget to tell him that no matter how mad you get at him, you'll still love him and be there for him, through anything and everything. BEST OF LUCK in salvaging your relationship with your son!!!

Answer 8

Uh... You're beating a dead horse. You didn't do the right thing, but you're not horrible.

Main thing is that I believe your son when he says he forgives you.

Perhaps he hit a trigger with you... Maybe your real guilt is not being able to afford this game console - which to me is a trivial thing - but how does it affect your manhood? Think about that... Perhaps that's the question you really need to answer.

Once you do, move on. Your family obviously loves and supports you. Don't waste your time in here asking strangers what they think.

Log off... Go kiss your son goodnight, and go to your wife, kiss her and make love to her... That's what your family needs, not more guilt!

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

My father fractured my nose and beat the living crap out of me when I was 15 years old for something I didn't do. It only happened once, and I tried to kill myself by overdosing on pills the next night. It was my dad who found me and took me to the hospital to pump my stomache. When I was feeling "better", we talked about it. I told him I'd forgive him, but he was the reason I tried to kill myself. If he ever touched me again, I told him it would be him waking up in a hospital. If you feel bad and it was a mistake, YOU make sure you don't ever cross that boundary again. Why would you physically hurt someone you love??????

Answer 10

tht depends on wht was the reason? if the reason was well enough, sure u have the right to smack (it would be better if you could explain verbally rather than physically)...

if there was no solid reason, well u were wrong then...u shldnt smack just bcs you had a bad day...

on the whole, sure, we will forgive our parents, afterall its our parents, its alrite...

Please keep in mind tht bcs we accept it doesnt mean it is right, we are living in a new generation here, domestic violence is a NO NO.....we would prefer constant communication..

Answer 11

Yeah I would forgive him. My dad and I have been through alot of fighting and not getting along, but not matter what I always forgive him.. it's my dad, I will love him and forgive him no matter how angry, upset, or hurt he could have made me. I think when your son tells your he forgives you, he is telling the truth.