I just got kicked out of the house and I'm at my what I thought boyfriend's house but he is telling his parents what happened and playing straight. Or maybe he is scared. It is hard to see that he is completely degrading me by sleeping with me a week ago and now telling his parents my issue and saying that my mom found out through my porn magazines when really, me and him were doing it when my dad just barged in. They were supposed to be away on vacation but came home early. Should I call home and get my parents to talk to his about what happened to take revenge on him or is he just scared that his family will disown him too? He is not affectionate toward me anymore and I'm lost, feeling betrayed and hurt but I really love him and I don't know what to do because I am a student and have no money. So I have to play this cherade until I am financially stable so I can support myself??? I have tried to talk to him and he won't talk to me about that...He denies everything!
2006-12-05 15:10:03 · 6 answers · asked by Skylar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For most guys, they practically stay in the closet and hope things will be easier after high school when they move away from home. It seems to me that you were probably were too telling by the way the you waited for your parents to go away on vacation and didn't even lock the door just incase. the best way to go with this is just to wait it out. if you stay longer at this guys house ou might get to know him better, and it is a place to stay while it is cold outside.
And the reason for the way this guy is treating you like this is not because he hates you, but because seeing your dad and mother reject you has made him realize that they too might not be understanding. just give him time, get a job in the mean while (or when its a bit warmer) and start saving up money. pretty soon you'll have the money to get away for some time and maybe rent an apartment.
If i was you i wouldn't keep bringing up the subject, if he is not ready to talk about it don't push it. in my experience with gays (no not sex) they remind me most of a snail and its eyeballs. when it feels that the coast is clear they will come out but as soon as they see the first signs of danger they will recede(just like he is doing now.) just comfort him up and make everything secured and he is bound to come out to you again.
2006-12-05 15:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by fezzypezzy48 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You moving in with him has forced him to talk about why you are there to his parents when he doesn't seem to have come out yet to his own parents. All of these reactions show he is worried that you may force him out of the closet early and he may be kicked out. Give him time and let him know you do not expect the world of him.
2006-12-05 23:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get your parents to talk to his that is not cool, he can talk to his parents in his own time im sure it is a difficult situation he needs to come to terms with everything and tell his parents when he is ready. Im guessing he's not ready yet but still wanted to look out for you so he held back some details, you best bet is to respect that he's not ready to tell his folks and if your not comfortable staying at his place go back home. g/l
2006-12-05 23:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come up with a Plan B. Do you have any other friends you can rely on? This guy has shown his true colors and he's out for himself....not you. He's already lied about the situation. What else will he lie about? I know it hurts but you've got to look out for yourself and not be a doormat to this jerk. He's not worth it.
2006-12-05 23:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on yourself right now. the only person hurt right now is YOU. first take care of your living situation. make sure you have a roof on your head. next is to deal with your own sexuality. then your parents and how they will react to this if they don't know already. then maybe talk to him for closure. if he's denying you his love now, what is there for you later?
2006-12-05 23:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go....he's way too scared of his own feelings to dare to have anything to do with you right now...he's afraid of his feelings of himself, of his parents, and his feelings toward you. You can't help him with this...this is something that he has to sort out in his own head. Sorry.
2006-12-05 23:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋