Basically me and my girlfriend want to get engaged. Im graduating college in may and shes not graduating for 2 years. I was thinking about waiting until shes a senior but i feel we have dated soo long we need toi move to the next step. We feel were ready to get married. My question is should we have done it a while ago or maybe should we wait. Also soooo sick of her not being next to me at night i almost can't sleep anymore. Theres nothing in the world i wand more then to just be with her for the rest of my life!!!
2006-12-05 15:00:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Based on your situation I see no reason why you can't get married. You will have a job (hopefully) after you graduate. That will bring money in to support her through her final college years and health ins. to cover both of you. You two sound to be in a good situation where it would actually be appropriate for college folk to marry. Talk it over with her, and if she seems agreeable...plan to pop the question. Perhaps on your graduation day or Valentines day.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 16:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very long for couples now these days. I think that you and her should go for it but then again it would be best to wait until shes almost done in school. Then you both have better careers ahead of you. Then maybe both of you guys having good jobs and married that would be great. I really suggest that if you do get married make sure you guys think the same way as far who is going to handle the money what kind of beliefs you guys have because without that you guys can be in love but it can miss up everything if there are no agreements to things. I am 25 married almost 4years now and we think alike on money and the way we want to raise our kids. Diffently involved with church once you guys move in together things will be very different
2006-12-05 23:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by coolmesillyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey guy. Read your question about being too skinny, and I really wanted to answer it.
The old body mass index tables say your (our, since I'm the same height) should be between 150-170 lbs. The bmi has fallen out of favor though, as it fails to take in several factors, especially body fat percentage. I can be perfectly healthy, and not overly muscled, at 180-190 lbs--because muscle is denser than fat.
The fact that you worry about exercising, and describe yourself as muscular, makes me worry about your body fat percentage. You NEED at least 6% body fat to be in good health as a male. I would suggest talking with a doctor about your concerns, and maybe even getting a full physical, including having your fat percentage determined.
To answer this question:
If you're talking engagement: talk it over with both sets of parents, and a priest of your religion, if you have one. You don't have to take their advice, but it's good to have. Getting engaged can put pressure on a relationship, especially when you're not in a stable financial situation. Remember that while an engagement should not be taken lightly, it is also not an ironclad obligation.
On a side note, my aunt and uncle dated for ten years before they were both ready. There's no rush, when you're with someone you want to spend an entire lifetime with.
If you're talking about sex:
Physical intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship, regardless of marriage status. While there is certainly some romance attached to the virginal status, if you and your current love do not work out, your next partner will be more than willing to forgive you for not wating for them. Sex before marriage will not ruin a relationship, if you have a good, healthy relationship--but pregnancy certainly can, so if at all possible she should get on the pill, and there can be NO exceptions to using condoms and spermicides.
One more thing...why are you waiting to sleep next to her? Do you really think you have that little self-control? Snuggle up to your lady, my good man, and dream sweet dreams.
2006-12-06 02:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by kerfloofle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can live together and not be married...then she would be there with you.
However the 6 yrs question is for y'all to decide...I've been married before so dating a guy 6 yrs w/o marriage wouldn't be an issue...however back when I was in my 20's I know I wouldn't have waited that long...probably not half that long...
2006-12-05 23:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say no. As long as you are commited to each other that is what really matters. My husband proposed to me after dating just 1 year, I said yes but we had a 5 yr engagement before actually walking down the isle because I wanted to be sure it would last
2006-12-05 23:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kim B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... there is no time limit on how long you can be with someone before marriage. However a woman usually sets one if we take too long. If you trully wanna marry this girl all you gotta do is copy and paste you last 2 sentences on a que card and read it to her. I doubt she will decline. Communication is the key. Good luck
2006-12-05 23:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by John T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason to wait you can get engaged and set your wedding date 2 years out or whatever works for both of you
2006-12-05 23:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , If you wait for all the planets to align it ain't gonna happen and Ill bet she is getting impatient and has brought it up over and over . If you know she is the girl for you DO IT... you can still finish school.
2006-12-05 23:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's getting financial aid, marriage will affect that. You can always live together although Christian people will object to that, but if she can get through school, there is no reason not to get married.
2006-12-05 23:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AWWW this is really sweet!
First off stop having sex! thats probably a huge mistake becuse it really enriches a marriage when you save that for eachother.
when and if you decide to stop this behavior date casually for a while so it will feel more like a step up rather than continuing the same thing.
Just suprise her, make a n elaborate celbration of asking her to
marry you serously do it old fashioned!!
2006-12-05 23:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋