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What was your ultrasound like? If the father is not availiable to be there for schedued ultrasound would you wait? I have been wondering about the sex ever since I found out I was pregnant, now my husband has to be out of town while our ultrasound was scheduled, Should I wait the 3 weeks for him or should I go myself? I am not trying to be mean I am just desperate to know. What did your partners say about being at the ultrasound?

2006-12-05 14:52:32 · 15 answers · asked by 1st time momma 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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My hubby always tears up when he sees the ultrasound. I know it is difficult but if you can please wait for him. It is an amazing experience for you to share with each other. Also.. with my second we had my father and mother-in-law in the room. We already had a little girl and we were hoping for a boy. When the tech said it is a boy my father-in-law let out a giant "YES" and we all laughed. Apparently it isn't just the dad of the baby who gets excited. Congrats

2006-12-05 16:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0 0

I had an ultrasound twice with my first child. The first time was at 11weeks to find out if the baby was ok as I was in hospital overnight for severe dehydration. It was a strange experience because it was the weekend and the ultrasound ward was closed and all the lights were off. But it was so cool seeing this little person, not yet fully formed alive and kicking. My husband was there both times. Second time was at 19weeks, for a follow up.. We caught bub chillin' and suckin' her thumb. Hubby came to all my appointments.
Might be different this time around, but I don't think he'd miss the ultrasound for anything.

2006-12-05 15:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Leah D 1 · 0 0

Ultrasound is simple, painless and quick. The person you should be speaking with is your husband. How does he feel about this. Does he want to be there? If he does, then you should honor that and put your own curiosities aside for 3 weeks.

I ended up having to have ultrasounds every two weeks for 5 months after they found a problem with my daughter. My husband's boss at the time (UPS) wouldn't let him take the time to come with me to my ultrasounds, and he worried terribly until I called him and let him know there were no changes. Then when there were changes, he wasn't there to hear what the Dr. had to say. If you're only having an ultrasound to know the sex, then you owe it to yourself, and to your husband to share that experience together.

My husband was with me through every step of my pregnancies and he's still here with me 16 years later. We have 2 wonderful, healthy daughters and your husband deserves to be part of the whole process, whether you're desperate or not. I really urge you to reschedule your appointment so you can be together for this happy occassion. Talk to him. (You'll find that if he doesn't care one way or the other, you'll be really disappointed, and if you find out he really does want to be part of your first ultrasound, and you disregard his feelings, you're really going to feel guilty about it later.) Just to know the baby's sex isn't worth it. You waited this long to get pregnant, you can wait 3 more weeks.

2006-12-05 15:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0 0

The ultrasound was a little tense for me at first because the technician was busy measuring and looking at everything. She didn't say much for several minutes while she moved the transducer around. Made worried thoughts pop into my head. And I had really no reason to worry because I had been betting vaginal sonograms from the very beginning because I had to do fertility treatments. I personally would have waited until my husband could be there. After all we went through to get to that point, I wouldn't have wanted him to miss it. And he was the one that wanted to know the sex of the baby. When the technician started pointing everything out to us and told us the baby was a boy, we both got teary eyed. We had both our mothers there there as well and they cried too. They usually tape it (they did for us) so if there is no way your partner can be there and you could show him. I would take you mom or a best friend as an alternative. Best wishes

2006-12-05 15:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0 0

My husband insisted on going with me to every appointment. Ultrasound and even obgyn!

I had been pregnant once before when I was single, and went to all my appts by myself. Now that I look back on it, that was a very lonely experience.

After having my husband around for every appt during this last pregnancy, I would have to recommend that you either re-schedule the appt for a time when he is in town, or that he re-schedule his trip.

Is this your first baby? Awwwwww!

The baby will be so small, there won't be much to see (I assume you are 8 weeks pg?), but I think it is really important that your husband see the entire progression along with you.

2006-12-05 15:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by gg 7 · 0 0

You can always have them check On the baby at this scheduled ultra sound and not tell you the sex...and then schedule onne when your hubby is in town to find out with you. Plus ya know you may not always be able to tell...I didn't find out i was having a girl until i was ( yes...9 months pregnant!!!! I had 6 ultrasounds due to my placenta previa.....and my Lil one had always kept her legs crossed but finally 2 weeks before she was born we found out !! :)

2006-12-05 15:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 2 · 0 0

My boyfriend didn't get to go to the first ultrasound but I brought him four pictures from the ultrasound. Now he was able to be there for the second ultrasound. He enjoyed it and wished he could have been there for the first one.

2006-12-05 15:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Seeing the baby was a totally amazing thing for my husband, both times.

However, we didn't want to know the baby's sex either time, so that wasn't a big deal for us.

And I had two high-risk pregnancies, so we had many, many chances after the 20th week to see our little aliens.

Talk to your husband, and see what he thinks. If he wants to be there, I think I'd wait. If he doesn't mind, and it means that much to you, then go for it.

2006-12-05 14:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 0 0

Ask him what he wants. If he gives you the green light, maybe you could take your mom or his, or a sister...somebody to be there to enjoy the moment with you.

Also, check out the 4d ultrasounds. I think you can see who does them in your area on ge.com. I had one done with my last baby and it was the coolest experience. You can actually see what you're baby looks like!

www.sanemommy.com

2006-12-05 15:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My husband was ther with my first but had to work with our second. Take a blank DVD or tape (ask office which one) and they will record it for him to watch later. And you could have your hubby on the cell phne when they tell you, they were more than happy to do that for me. I just told them to wait to tell me to the end, then called my hubby, put it on speaker & he found out at the same time as me. Good LUck

2006-12-05 14:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 3 0

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