Ok, I share a house with a guy and about 3 weeks ago we had sex.We have been close ever since.But we weren't thinking straight and we didn't use a condom.We thought that since it was my first time i couldn't get pregnent.I was sick for a bout a week and i went to the doctor yesterday.He said i was pregnent and come back later.i was Scared because about 3 nights ago i brought up him and me having a baby and he lashed out and said that He Doesn't want a baby.It scared me a lot.So Should I tell Him I'm Pregnent or should i wait?
2006-12-05 14:27:55 · 19 answers · asked by rei_ylonen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell him your pregnent if you feel that he will not get violent with you. He is responsable for supporting the child weather he likes it or not. He will be supporting that baby until it turns 18. If you are scared of him, move out and inform him that he is responsable via a letter certified.
2006-12-05 14:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the difference going to be if you tell him now or wait. If you don't tell him not and continue to wait u will be even closer to having this child. He had a part in making that baby in turn he is also responsible. It will take time for him to adjust to the fact that he will be a father as it did for you.... but waiting too long could just cause more problems
2006-12-05 14:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by kara b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how close you feel to this person. You can try to ease in on the subject. I know when people I know have been scared they wait till a little further along to be sure they dont have a miscarriage before saying anything. Good luck and hope you are excited and all goes well for you
2006-12-05 14:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell him. He has the right to know. He shouldn't get mad at you because, he also had the power of using a condom. So it isn't totally your fault. He may deny the baby, so be prepared for that. As far as the not getting pregnant your first time thing, I have plenty of friends with children to prove that it can happen. Now you can prove it also. good luck with everything.
2006-12-05 14:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you tell him...the sooner it will sink in and the both off you can look over all the options available that you both agree on. (Keeping the child,adoption,or abortion)...they are your choices since it is your body but in some states the clinic requires the dad's consent in adoption...i know from personal experience. I have a 2yr old and me and the father are still together and very happy. :)
2006-12-05 14:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind about the baby first. Are you keeping it, even if you have to do it alone?
Once you have decided what you want to do, tell him as soon as you know for sure.. This will give him more time to come around to the idea. He will freak out at first, give him his space and let him come to terms with it in his own way.
2006-12-05 18:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by evil_nykki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise telling him sooner rather than later. At leastthen he can't say you were tryin to hide it from him or it isn't his or anything to that sort. It doesn't really sound like he has a choice in the matter now so he needs to grow up and face the responsibility.
GOOd Luck and congrats!!
2006-12-05 14:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 4 Sweethearts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him now. Regardless of whether he wants a baby or not, he helped make a baby. The two of you need to figure out what is the next step.
2006-12-05 14:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. I felt the same way he did when my wife (girlfriend at the time) got pregnant. After the initial shock...I took it day-by-day, and we had my son...The greatest thing that ever happend to me!
he may get upset...but he needs to realize that he helped get you into this situation too. Time to be a man and take the responsibility to help you through this .
2006-12-05 14:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by ucftrev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would tell him because he needs to know so you can plan the futue and know what you and him are gonna have to do to support the baby most likely he wont get angry or violent because the reason he lashed out at you is because hes really scared i hope this helps you
2006-12-05 14:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋