There's this kid who I used to be friends with earlier in the year, but he's been getting weirder and more annoying, so I've kind of tried to lessen our friendship by not talking as much. It worked, but a new problem has arose... HE SMELLS! He's in one of my classes and friends with a lot of my friends (or just tolerated because nobody's mean enough to say he's annoying to his face) so I can't tell him. I don't want to seem mean or anything, and have my friends be mad at me... but this is no normal stench we're dealing with. It's not the usual body odor, it's something way worse. It stings your nose and lungs, and I'm prone to respitory sicknesses so it really affects me if I have to sit near him. I can't handle the stink, and although I dislike him, I don't want be mean by telling him to go bathe or something, and get my friends angry at me... What should I do?
2006-12-05 13:15:53 · 26 answers · asked by Koko 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Btw, sometimes it's so bad that I need to breathe through my sleeve.. it's only a matter of time before somebody notices. =(
2006-12-05 13:16:44 · update #1
I've had at least 6 friends agree w/ me on the fact that he smells... They're just too afraid to tell him because he gets really weird and tantrumy when upset. Pretty pathetic for a junior in high school, but still... not a good thing.
2006-12-05 13:45:10 · update #2
Talk to the teacher about it, privately and in a respectful manner. If it's an issue for students sitting around him, the teacher should talk to him and find out what's behind the problem. It may be that there are real problems at home and he's not getting proper care or nutrition or something along those lines, so don't be a jerk about it.
Of course, since your other friends don't seem to have a problem with him, it may be that the real issue lies with you, not him.
2006-12-05 13:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get him some cologne or body wash for cristmas. or just say, " um...i think you may need to take a shower more" or something like that, but dont make it sound mean because then he will feel that you are making fun of him. just tell him that its no big deal, everyone goes through a stage like this. it will pass but in the meentime could you where some cologne or shower more often. reason with him and dont feel bad because you are helping him by helping yourself. you could go up to him with a group of his friends and say that you are just trying to make him more confident. you may think he doesnt smell it but believe me he does, and he just doesnt know its that bad. you just have to tell him the truth because not telling him whats wrong is the same thing as lying, it will always hurt someone in the end.
good luck and i hope i helped in any way
2006-12-05 21:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by frenchchicka326 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a bar bath bubbles,soaps and/or cologne for Christmas or Hanukkah. That's what i would do! You should also talk to your friends about it, if the smell is as bad as you say it is then they must notice too. They are probably too scared to say anything about it. If you tell him the truth then it might hurt his feelings but it will help him in the future. Remember Honesty is the best Policy! Thats what i live by!
2006-12-05 21:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of stuff happens after school. You have no idea of knowing what kind of life he has at home.
Could be busted plumbing at home. Absentee parents who don't care if he washes or not.
I'm guessing this is middle school. Guys get stinky at that age.
Have a teacher or counselor talk to him. I had a teacher in Jr. High that kept a can of underarm deoderant handy to present to some stinky kid after class. A gentle reminder.
2006-12-05 21:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by John K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him in a nice way. It's better he's told by a potential friend than someone who intends to hurt his feelings. If you don't tell the kid he's annoying and needs to bathe, it's just going to build up and up until you snap. Tell him now before things get complicated.
2006-12-05 21:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss the situation with the school nurse and perhaps with a teacher you trust. They may have some advice. Perhaps the teacher or nurse will be willing to investigate and advise the kid to do something about the smell.
2006-12-05 21:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Piguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him nicely that he has bo. theres a way to do it. don't say it all loud just quietly in a conversation between the two of you. and about being annoying. just have everyone ignore him for a while so he'll take the hint he's bothering everyone. but make sure to still be nice. you don't want him to go all columbine and shoot up the school.
2006-12-05 21:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by corie j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are he may have been thrown a few hints already but they never registered.
pull him to the side - absolutely alone and be nice about it. act really "confidential" so he won't feel like you're going to talk about him after you part.
but you gotta tell him, it's your duty as a so-say friend, he's gotta know, that can't be healthy and of course embarrassing
2006-12-05 21:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your teacher to talk to him. There was a kid like that when I was in school. Several students talked to him about it,but he did nothing to change.F inally when they complained to the teacher,and she spoke with him,he decided to take a bath
2006-12-05 21:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by ICEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the teacher and see if he/she could move you to a different spot in the room or address the issue to him personally. I had the exact problem with a kid next to me, and the teacher moved me. DON'T TELL HIM WHATEVER YOU DO. He may be dipressed and or down on himself. You never know these days what a kid could go crazy about.
2006-12-05 21:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by danielschmidt94521 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋