my ex girl and i have been split for 6 months now. to this day we remain good friends hang out together as we have mutual friends. i still luv her she knows this and she cares about me and our friendship etc. she has found happiness with another guy but still remains in contact with me. helps me as a friend. she left me so why all the effort to remain friends??? you can still remain good friends with a guy without all the contact etc cant u??? we keep telling eachother we need space as i still have feelings for her but yet we both seem to somehow stay in touch constantly. what should i do??? she has nothing more to gain from me and we both know we will be not be back together in a relationship sense?? girls help me out here!!!
2006-12-05 13:11:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you need to talk to her. I have been there done that. You need to express ur feelings.
2006-12-05 13:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~miley~♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course u can still remain good friends. dis is so weird cuz iyesterday i just recently spoke to an ex bf and he was helping me with my bf situation, which im going through right now.
i guess u both share something still and no-one can come between that. its still good to remain friends because that just shows that the respect for eachther is still there and when she was your gf there was still a bond there which was not a romantic one but also a friendship one.
u both have come to terms with no relationship , but no matter what ur still gonna have a soft spot in your heart for her because u once cared about her in a sexual way.
so don't feel upset about it, shes moved on, but u have to move on too, but also she will aways be coming to you 4 advice wih her bf because your one of her good friends!!!!
im sure u would rather have her friendship than not have anything at all.
Or r u da type of guy to say it's all or nothing,but i don't get that from you because u would of said that a long time ago!!!
2006-12-05 21:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by will's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just talk to her and explain your feelings to her. If it is too hard for you to still be friends without that getting in the way you should probably just try to avoid her for awhile...Im not saying to stop being friends with her....just take some time out and try to find someone for yourself. That might help you keep your mind off of her. Just keep in mind that it takes two to have a relationship and if she has chosen not to be with you anymore than the best thing you can do for yourself is not to dwell on it. There are other fish in the sea and most of the time they are not that hard to find if you are willing to look around you and see more than that one person that you devote your time trying to be with. Good luck
-Jackie-
2006-12-05 21:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still friends with my ex husband, but since we're both remarried, there is no way we're getting back together. Why does everybody thing when you break up there has to be this big drama scene. Just stay friends. Life is not a soap opera.
2006-12-05 21:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from her and concentrate on yourself for six months. Join a gym, go running, cycling, take up a sport, improve your education, take yourself out and buy yourself dinner, buy yourself presents, play your music. Then after six months you will be in a position to be friends with her if you still want to.
2006-12-05 21:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by beachloveric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably tell her that you appreciate her willingness to stay close to you, but you haven't be able to seperate yourself emotionally from her yet and that you need a little space. Maybe seperate yourselves for a while.
2006-12-05 21:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by sarahbrooke23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋