and he doesnt even know it I think, I am a stay at home mom and depend on a man, he wont help out with me getting a job or daycare, so Im trapped...if I were to get on some anti depressants to feel better could this be used against me in a custody battle???
2006-12-05 13:07:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We live in canada...the laws here favor men these days, even incompetant ones.
2006-12-05 13:10:43 · update #1
depression shouldn't be taken lightly, you need to seek professional help. never self-medicate.
if the problem is the relationship, then you have to get out of it. you need to talk to a lawyer who could explain to you your rights and obligations. you need to get all the details so you could have a clearer view of what you want to do next. you may feel trapped now, but if you know your options - you'll see all the possible exits you could take. and be brave...at least for your kids.
God bless!
2006-12-05 13:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need your husband to help you get a job.
go out and get a job yourself,you feel this way because you feel you have to be dependent on him,look into some low cost daycare,pull yourself together,you are much better than that
anti depressants only work for awhile,besides the problem is still there,if you think you would be in a custody battle then don't take anything that could be used against you!!!!
work on yourself you will be okay,stop thinking you can't do anything without your husbands help
2006-12-05 21:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try to get a job at a daycare so you can be with your son and make some money as well. Getting on anti depressants is not the answer those pills have lots of side effects.
2006-12-05 22:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that you have a man like that. Does Canada have Kids incorporated? If so they will help you pay for daycare. Is there anyway you can buy anti-depressants on-line? I do they'll even write you a script and its legit. I take lexapro. If you wanna talk feel free to email me lynn.foster@tds.net. good luck
2006-12-05 21:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by danlynnhunterkaleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on anti depressants during my divorce and he tried to ues it against me yes but he did not succeed. At least i could admit that i was depressed and the situation was the problem since the divorce i have not been on any meds and i feel fine . And if u are seeing a councelor they can come to court and support u if u need that. Do not be afraid to get help if u need it .
2006-12-05 22:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help yourself don't blame him for all of what you two shared in making. He doesn't owe you a damn thing! You sound like someone who wants everything done for you. Get a life please, quit blaming the guy you are suppose to be in love with. If you are depressed get help. Did you know that about 60 % of the population is depressed in some form or another. I feel sorry your common law husband.
2006-12-05 21:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is situational depression and that can only be cured by changing the situation. If you are already talking custody battles, then hon, you've already left. So go ahead and go, what are you waiting for?
2006-12-05 21:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can divorce him just like a marriage with papers. If you are in a common law marriage..... you get half.... plus child support, etc.
You will also find help through social services, can go to school, and get a job.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-05 21:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO,
WELL NO MAN IS GOING TO HELP YOU ANY WAY....THEY THINK THAT ALL WOMEN ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO DO THINGS ALL BY THEIR SELF....BUT I WAS LIKE YOU AND I GOT OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP....I WENT TO MY PARENTS HOUSE TILL I GOT UP ON MY FEET.....BUT ANY WAY I WOULD GO AND LOOK IN TO WHAT THE COMMUNITY HAS TO OFFER AS IN FOOD STAMPS WELFARE THAT SORT OF THING AND THEY CAN HELP YOU GET OUT OF THE SITUATION THAT YOUR IN AND THINK OF IT THIS WAY YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT A DIVORCE IN THE LONG RUN THAT IS WHY I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED TO ANY ONE...BUT LOOK IN TO THE PEOPLE IN YOUR FAMILY FIRST AND THEN GET THE STATE YOUR IN TO HELP ALSO...START BY A PART TIME JOB AND WORK YOUR WAY UP TO FULL TIME SO YOU DON'T PUT THE CHILDREN IN TO SHOCK........IT MAKES YOU FEEL MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR CHILDREN AND YES IT WILL BE HARD ON THEM BUT IT WILL BE WORTH IT...MY 2 YEAR OLD TELLS ME NOW MOMMY GO MAKE MY MONEY.....SO THEY WILL GET USE TO IT....AND IF YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO IT ANY THING IS POSSIBLE ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT......
2006-12-05 21:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti=depressants should show that you are trying. And prove how sad you are in the marriage
2006-12-05 21:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋