Do you think is right that I still get beats from my parents when am 13?

Question

Am 13 and my parents still beat me I don't think is right. Like this morning they woke me up to get ready for school and I went back to sleep my dad came saying Ryan why aren't ready for school, I said I can't go, he says why, I say because am suspended, He says why I said no reason, He took his belt and started beating me and I told him I call a girl a hooker and then fought with his brother.Then my mom came with a shoe.Plus my little sis rat on me telling my mom I smoke.Is not fair that I get beats when my 16 year old brother doesn't come .I have a appointment at 8 (If we are haing problems my ada gives us a time to speak with him)with my parents to talk abt what I think they are doing wrong on being a good parent to me? and the issue of smoking and calling girls names
What should I say to them?

Answer 1

Umm call the police if they leave marks on you, that child abuse and that's against the law. even though you might have deserved it, jk

Answer 2

I think you need to say that you are irresponsible and headed toward real trouble. First of all, you need to inform your parents up front that you were suspended and why. Surprises are NEVER EVER welcomed by parents.

I do not think that beating you is acceptable or appropriate. It sounds as if your parents badly need help. Their parenting style could be leading to your difficulties.

I think you need to tell the counselor that your family needs to understand how to operate as a functional unit. Clearly there are bad problems. Admit that you have been a pain, and are rebellious, because you clearly are. But also say that you would do better if your parents could figure out how to discipline you without assault. Frankly if the counselor reports this to a social worker, you could be taken away from your parents.

I would also ask the counselor about camps that can help you before you do worse things.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, try to fix that, and try to cooperate at the meetings. But that definitely isn't right. Whether you're one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen or forty, it's still not right to beat anyone, especially a child. Especially your child.

So no. Ofcourse it isn't right! I see you've been involved in meetings with your parents? Well, that's a good first step. And if you want to see the counselor, that's a good second step. But I'd be intimidated to do that, and ofcourse, if you felt the same way, you wouldn't have to.

Hang in there.

Answer 4

There is a difference between "beating" and "spanking". If they are injuring you and leaving marks then you need to talk to a counselor or someone at your school or child protective services and get some help. It is also a problem that you are smoking and fighting and calling girls hookers. Your parents probably don't know what to do. Please talk to a counselor and get some help for you and your family.

Answer 5

I don't think it is ever right to beat a child, I have two and I have never laid a hand on them. Your parents could use some counseling. You could try to be better behaved for your parents so they don't feel the need to punish you.Please stop smoking and don't call other people names.

Answer 6

It is never okay to beat a child even if they did wrong. It hurts and the person giving it is abusing the child. Its okay for a punishment but not beating, especially right when the child gets out the bath tub and they have no clothes on (I have seen it happen) or at any time As for the hooker you needed to be get punished. You shouldnt be smoking it bad for your body. I think you should tel lthem you wont do it again, but talk is cheap you need ot stop by yourself.

Answer 7

No offense, but you sound a troublesome kid. My bet is that your parents don't know how to get to you, and spanking (not beating) is the only way they know how.

A family freind once told me as a joke, you are never too old for a spanking (it was pun in another language), but I think it is true. Just because you are 13 does not mean you have the right to act out and not get punished for it. I think your parents may think spanking is the only way to make you understand.

Pull your act together and they won't spank you. And why are you smoking? You want to die at 30?

Answer 8

Try doing good things for them that they do not ask of you. Please them and do it only because you want to and because you want things better. Ask them, occassionally, if there is anything around the house they would like you to do. They will see, or at least possibly believe, that you are wanting to change the way you live : 1) for the better and 2) for a way that will be pleasant for all in the family. Let them see your honest effort to help and that you care about the family 'machine'. That you care how it works. Things will improve. Out of nowhere go and wash their cars and do not tell them till you are finished. Try bringing Dad his shoes in the morning or pouring him a cup of coffee even if you never have. Ask him how much cream and sugar he likes in it. Hold your Mom's hand when you walk in Walmart with her. Let them know you love them and want life more pleasant for you all. It will get better FAST. E-mail me anytime friend.

Answer 9

Oh yeah, something's up. i used to be molested for 4 years by employing way of my older brother and sucked my thumb for longer than i could desire to have and wet the mattress till finally i used to be in many situations 13. i could maximum possibly initiate investigating.

Answer 10

It doesn't matter what you've done beatting a child is illagle call the police asap! thats just not right. I would have grounded for what you did not beatten you though.