i have been talking to a guy online for a few days now that lives in another state. he wants to have a sex change, i believe god made you who you are for a reason but i support him he is 45, lives with his parents and doesnt have any moneyi dont know how to help him other than by giving him my support. he is deppressed and keeps saying he wants to kill himself. help what do i do.please br sincere, not ignorant otherwise please dont answer this question evryones entitled to their dream be it weird or not
2006-12-05 12:44:01 · 7 answers · asked by candy cane 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
there is such a personality problem that causes men or women to want to be the other sex... sometimes it has to do with the amount of antrogens given at birth or estrogen .. anyways... all you can is support him because this type of operation is very expensive although he can do other things dress wear makeup to make himself seem like the opposite sex until he saves up enough money... all you can really do is be there for him and tell him it's ok to be different ...
2006-12-05 13:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by yelenia0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been given some very good answers above. Another suggestion may be that there are counsellors specifically for people with gender identity issues. Perhaps you could find one or a few, then give him their names and phone numbers. That way you are helping, without doing something for him that he needs to do himself. He should also deal with his depression, which may be related to his identity issue, but it would not be solved by an operation. The depression is a second issue.
2006-12-05 13:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you entirely sure that he is on the level? You have only been talking to him for a few days, right? Perhaps he is making this up, for some strange reason.
I mean, would you tell a person those things about yourself to a total stranger online so soon after meeting them?
I'm sorry. I guess this isn't really an answer.
Be well.
2006-12-05 14:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with michela. this friend of yours needs counselling and fast. dreams or not, the wish to kill oneself is the whole overridding issue here, not his desire for a sex change. as a TGirl myself, i dealt with the depression and other things first BEFORE i even considered undergoing SRS (sexual reassignment surgery for those of you who dont know - in my case it will be MTF). get your friend some help - today if possible.
2006-12-06 04:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by newmichelle1959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likey there is a root problem, and a cause for this desire, most likely in his childhood. you must try and find out what this is, without being rude or nosey, which is a difficult task, I wish you the best of luck, and If you think I can help anymore please feel free to email me.
2006-12-05 12:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's prone to suicidal dpressions now, just wait until he has his tallywacker lopped off and tries to pass as a female, the derision of his peers will truly drive him to end it all. sorry but I don't think there's anything you can do for him, he's doomed.
2006-12-05 14:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he needs to get into counseling fast. i am a 37 yo cd and i know what it is like to feel like you are all alone with no one to talk to about these issues
2006-12-05 12:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋