We have been together for 15 years and my husband still does not trust me with our finances and is always threatening to leave me. When he sees that he is not winning an argument he really loses his temper and becomes verbally abusive.
I have never bounced a check,not paid a bill on time,had a utility shut off or been denied a loan. Can't say that about my husband who had crappy credit before he married me.
I should have known better.....he is the baby of the family while I am the oldest and only girl. Birth order...think about it.
2006-12-05 12:35:46 · 10 answers · asked by Kitthered 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have been together for 12 yrs, he is the baby of 5, and I am the oldest and the only girl. I am a stay at home mother of 6, I had great credit when we married and his was BAD!! I handle all of the money...all of it. When he was in a civilian job, he came home every Friday at lunch, handed me his check, and I handed him back some cash to keep on him. I pay all of our bills, and control all of our savings, he does not even know how much we really have, because he never asks. Now, he is in Iraq, so it is all direct deposited into an account I set up for him, as soon as it hits the account, I move it to mine, and leave him some money in it. When he runs out of money, he calls, and I transfer some more back to him, or he calls and tells me he is taking a draw so I do not panic when the next xheck is deposited. This is how we have always done it, so maybe it is the person, not the birth order. Maybe it is how he was raised. My husband agrees that I do stay at home, and I homeschool my kids, but I do have more time in a day to go pay things, or pay them online. I am very good at math, and so is he, but he likes not having that worry. I do not mind it, it is second nature for me to know what bills are due and when. I do not know why your husband is like that, but maybe it really is the way he was raised.
2006-12-05 12:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let him do the bill's...if u have a job u keep ur money as far as him threating to leave every second he act's like a baby...i would call his bluff just to see if he suck's up to u...u dont need to be treated like that...maybe u should show him that u never bounced a check or not paid a bill on time or have ur utility shut off or been denied a loan...tell him he need's to trust u and u need to show him u can do it sooo he will feel more comfee with u...and if u share a joint bank acct. 1/2 of what is in the bank is ur's...good luck
2006-12-05 12:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Whenever I hear people say stuff like that it really irritates me. Before you get married you should decide who's responsible for paying the bills, set up how much spending money each person gets each month, etc etc. If your man can't trust you with money (or feels like he can't) why exactly are you two together? I mean he's controlling and thinks you aren't trustworthy....not exactly a recipe for a great marriage in my opinion.
2006-12-05 12:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they spend it!!!! for example my mother is a stay at home mom!! My poor father works 40+ hours a week and hella overtime to support his family and bills and the fact my mom isnt working so they only have one income!! my mother shops to she drops and is always buying thing! Plus its christmas time and my poor dad doesnt rarely have a 2 shine dimes to run together because my mom is at the mall or the hair dresser!! Women are shopping freaks and if you thinks about it all we want to do is spend money and our boyfriends or husbands know we are just going to buy that 200.00 pair of sandals that were on sell instead of paying the rent!! I kinda feel bad for all the husbands and stay at home moms!!
2006-12-05 12:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by prece88 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU sound like me, my guy is also the baby of the family and acts like it 100 percent.
I am a stay home mom as well, so I hate asking for money. I am the oldest myself. He is 32 and Im 26.
2006-12-05 12:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a controlling jerk who doesn't respect women. Tell him if he wants to leave so bad, get the hell out of your house, and don't let the door hit him on the way out. There is no excuse for abusive manipulation like that.
2006-12-05 12:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need to sit down and have a serious discussion about life and romance
2006-12-05 12:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes sounds controlling
maybe hes hiding something
2006-12-05 12:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes hiding something..like what he spends money on
2006-12-05 12:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his way of controlling you!!!!
2006-12-05 12:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋