why is it that once men know us and feel comfortable with us they forget how to show us love and affection? do we suddenly become unattractive or something? or is this just me that thinks this?
2006-12-05 12:12:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well have you tried telling him that you wish you two could be more cuddly again?He might not know that you want that at that time.Communication is important in a relationships!Maybe you guys can have a pamper day where you pamper each other all day.Like give massages,foot rubs,etc that with restore some intimacy.
Or otherwise maybe their's something bothering him???
2006-12-05 12:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly_queen_19_2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with partner for four years now & he is just as affectionate towards me now as he was in the beginning. Every couple obviously has a honeymoon period where they show each other more affection than they probably will through the rest of their relationship. Obviously my partner & I are not still in the honeymoon period but he regularly displays his affection for me & vice versa. I think that with some men it's just that they become comforatble within a relationship & simply don't realise that they're partner is missing the affection that they used to show. I'm sure if you told your partner your concerns he would be sorry & try harder. He just probably hasn't realised that you're bothered by it.
2006-12-05 20:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one I am a man and I am always affectionate and show love to women. Some men think that once you have a woman that they like well why worry about been affectionate anymore, they have the prize they went after. But some men like me always enjoy showing all kinds of love to our woman day and night, even when around friends. The way I see it my woman is nicer and more beautiful than my friends. And also I am not kissing them neither. But to answer your question, ALl men are not the same. SOme are worried what will my friends say if I show affection to my woman in front of them, they will make fun of me. Well this man shows affection to women in front of anybody if they want to make fun of me fine, I don't care but who has a woman that is beautiful and sexy and who doesn't. SO never judge all men because of a few dumbassess
2006-12-05 12:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We feel that they dont need to show you the love they did in the begining of the relationship. We think they know you better, and im sure we do, so that makes us feel like we dont have to treat you the same way. We are still going to treat you nice and love you we just wont show it as much because we dont think we need to.
The again some men, like me (not to brag or anything), show affectionate the whole time. I never want to lose me significant other cause i love her so much. Then it could also being saying that they just dont have as much feeling for you anymore as they did in the beggining. Hope I helped you.
2006-12-05 12:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men can have sex with hundreds of women in their lifetime, but they are just using most of these woman to fulfil their "needs".
However, several times in their life they WILL connect on a higher level with a woman and then be VERY affectionate during the whole relationship.
Your job as a woman is to weed out the first group and find the second.
Granted, it is DAMN hard to do. But that is YOUR job.
If you are out there screwing around looking for affection then you are gonna have to deal with the first group. Stay strong though, use a condom, avoid marriage until you find the second.... and then go for it.
Good luck!
Remember, they WILL tell you whatever they have to tell you to get some... until they tire of you, and then the affections ends. UNLESS it is the second situation..
2006-12-05 12:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First you are naive. Every man does not act like that. I know a lot of women that do the same. Life should be lived with zest. people are all talk not action. What are you doing to create action ? You need to find something to give you balance...art...travel...dance...the list is endless.....you dilemma is you have not found your true love yet and you know it. It is easy to be content. You are bored so now you are picking on your relationship. You have to understand when men search for something they get lazy so do women. You never held your ground in a firm manner. Pandora's box if I could just open it. Women love excitement as long as they can return un damaged. You have all the wonder within you if you can not unleash it with whom you are with. the chemistry was just sex. You seek something that entertains the mind and wish to share it or better yet you could be a follower. You have control on being in a manner that pleases you...buck up and do something about it. Do not believe all men are content...maybe he feels you are the one the is content. It is your own responsibility to keep your self busy not anyone Else's....your true love in the future will observe you and join in on your task and you will the same with him.
2006-12-05 12:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by wonderiswithin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about other guys but i like being affectionate. I look forward to it. The woman that i have been seeing is the same way. I have found that when both love to give affection you get used to it. Maybe you just haven't met the right one.
2006-12-05 12:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a male, I'd hate to be in a position where I could not show my affection. However, I suggest that you might like to review the meaning of the word you use, 'affection,' and perhaps find something more appropriate for the occasion.
Sash.
2006-12-05 12:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by sashtou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they just start to show love and affection in a different way, because once you get comfy around someone you both realize your feelings for each other so there's no need to express it 24-7. so we get into these routines.
if he forgets to say i love you every once in a while just remind him. just don't be a nag though. when i mean ever once in a while, i mean every once in a while. you two already know you are in love.
2006-12-05 12:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My marriage counselor told me its because he was trying to "get you" and once he does, he feels he did his job, hes already "got you" and thinks your his for the taking. Once he feels comfortable enough that you are going to be together, he doesnt try so hard anymore. Sucks I know. Dont be so clingy to him all the time and he'll get lonely and affectionate again for your attention. Let him come to you...
2006-12-05 12:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Koozie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋