ok i have a 'friend' that ive known for years. we are good talkers about subjects like boys ect. and thats why i always liked being her friend. over the summer, she changed a whole lot. that isnt the problem, because as people go into highschool that happens. the people she hangs out w/ are the problem.two of them ruined my 7th and 8th grade years with bullying and taunting that will forever leave a scar. she has still continued to be friends with them, and stick up for them. it hurts, because they have ruined my life that she continues to stick up for them, also, her other friends are very different people, and unfriendly, some of them scary.i am treated really badly around them. then you ask me why i have continued to be friends with her while i have other good friends? because we have alot of classes together,& we pass eachother in the halls alot, and i have tried so many times to be mad at her, and its not easy. we always end up being friends again its hard to be mad at her. HELP!?
2006-12-05 12:11:27 · 5 answers · asked by Bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have had this problem before and it is always going to be hard because you know you get along with her great and had fun but you have to know it is better if you werent friends. people come and go in life and it is just her time to go. and being mad at her isnt the answer you have to just be "cool" with her. you dont even have to tell her straight up you dont want to be friends with her anymore. just dont ask her to hang out. tell her you are busy when she asks you to, and be busy because thats the most important part. and especially since you have friends that are good to you you dont need to be taking crap from someone who isnt making you feel good about yourself.
2006-12-05 12:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by b.lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something like this, "Why are you friends with them when you know they've made fun of me so many times & still continuously do it? I don't wanna be mad at you, but I do wanna understand why you wanna be their friend when you know how they treat me & how they've treated me in the past. We're really good friends & I don't want them ruining that for us, but I can't stand them. & I can't be around you when they're around. I'm really sorry 'cuz you may take this the wrong way, but they've just bullied me for so long & have left a permanent scar on me & that makes me feel awful." See what she says. If she's even half the friend you say she is, she'll understand.
2006-12-05 20:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would try to talk with your friend and tell her how you feel about the situation. Remind her how long you two have been friends and how much good times you had together. You might try telling her what her new friends have done to you in the past, and you dont believe that they are very good friends. I understand what you mean. I have had this same problem before, and this is what I did. It turned out pretty good, I got my friend back and the bully's went their seperate ways. Good luck with that. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-05 20:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I am like you too! i have a friend and, well you basically explained the story......and she talks to kids i dont like and she is in my classes and we pass notes and all. Me and you are in the sam situation. I get mad at her too! SHE IS SOOO JUST BOTHERING! if i am mad at her, i have no one else during class.........so, now that i think of it, i may use her a bit! OH NO!
Ok, ummmm...........is she really worth being friends with? Because if she cant stand up for her own "friend" then she is no friend. I am sure you have other friends. I do, but they have a different lunch and have no classes with me, so everytime i see them, they screem: " Shahana! OMG! I saved you a seat" or something like that. You need to let her go, Hey! I need to take my own advice LOL! But, if it hurts you so bad, then LET GO
Hope this helps!
2006-12-05 20:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chris and Shahana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to drop this "so called friend". If she were truly a friend to you. then she would not let her other friends treat you as they do. Be around people who are going to appreciate your good qualities and like you just because of who you are. A kind, nice person perhaps.
2006-12-05 20:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋