How do you go on after being hurt by the one you love so often? Why do women run out when things get hard?

Question

My wedding date was March 17th 07. I was looking so forward to being the happiest man in the world. She is great and I'll always see her that way. I hate not being able to hear her voice right now, ut God gives me strength. I'm 26 and I wanna put my all in to her. We' ve been together since was 20. Everyone who believes in God, keep me in your prayers and pray for my relationship.

Answer 1

Is it just that she's getting cold feet?

I can't speak for most women, but I don't "run" out when things get hard. Usually I'll bust myself up trying to work things out. Until he walks out. Then the door in my heart closes forever.

My ex walked out on me and our child. Very tumultuous. Now he wants back in (years later) and I just can't find it in myself to trust or care anymore.

I'm hoping it's just cold feet. Have you talked to her...tried? What happened?

Good luck.

Answer 2

Without knowing your particular circumstances, I can't know that your situation is a very common problem between some men and women. One thing you do not want to do is start judging other people prematurely based on the hurt from this relationship. It is not fair to the next woman that you date (if things do not eventually work out for you). Also, saying that women run out when things get hard, that leaves alot of open questions. Many times I have heard men say similar things. They fail to mention that the women that they are referring to have been trying to straighten serious problems out in the relationship unsuccessfully for quite a while and not wanting to just give up until they conclude that the situation is hopeless and the only thing left to do is leave. Some times, I think the leaving is to get the attention of the one they love when they have exhausted every other possible option. The man in the relationship is totally taken off guard because he didn't realize the seriousness of the situation, and the woman thinks that he knows just what she was thinking when he had no idea the impact the problem was on the relationship. I do not know in your case, I have just seen this several times. I will definitely keep you in my prayers. If she is the woman that you were meant to be with, it will work out eventually, and if it does, you will have a marriage starting out without these problems. Not saying that it will have no problems of course, but at least if it does work out, you will have worked through this problem before getting married.

Answer 3

Heartache is a tough one...Time is the only answer and some take a whole lot more time than others...You can bury your pain and start dating again, but I wouldn't recommend this..Stay single for a while....Try to be with friends, family, church members during the times that were special for the two of you....Suround yourself with people who care about you and will not mind your depression and when you talk about the ex.....Because I am sure you are probably depressed.....Get into the scripture, you will find some answers easily others will be elusive...Know that if this one did not work for you, God has other plans...Cliche I know, but I feel it is true...You didn't mention why she left...That would help in giving you a more meaningful answer....you say you want to put your all into her....did you smother her with your love? You must have other interests than just her....It's the only way to be healthy inside your heart and head....Footnote: Men run out as much as women do baby, some are just not that committed....you were, apparently she wasn't.....Sorry, I will pray for you......

Answer 4

You have to understand it wasn't meant to be. I know that sounds so cliche. But when you actually meet that right person (as long as you allow yourself too), or once you finally move on..you will see that. Things always look bleak at the beginning of heartache. But pain is the only way to happinest. Be thankful she left before the wedding. That's a dead give away it wasn't right. You can't get much more clear than that.

So for now focus on you. For the lest 6 years its been the TWO of you. You need to learn YOU again. Go out a try things that are new to you and your normal routine. It will make you stronger and the next time heartache comes knocking on your door, it will be that much more understandable and easier to handle.

Answer 5

I feel for you man , Ive been there myself but count your blessings. You don't want to marry a girl that does not fully love you back and she left before you tied the knot and had kids . I was married 7 years and my wife came and told me she never really loved me the way she should . I met a girl 2 years later on a cruise to Mexico who moved here to Vegas to be with me and I wish I had met her a long time ago ,we have been together almost 2 years and things could not be better. What I am getting at is sometimes things work out for better and don't have those people who love you pray for her to come back but that you find happiness with someone who loves and completes you.CAN I GET AN AMEN???

Answer 6

Sounds like an unhealthy relationship to me. If you two are this way now, what makes you think that things will change once you are married? Things will still be the same. I know you are hurting. This is what an obsessive relationship is all about: the pain. I will keep you in my prayers. You might want to consider seeking counseling with a professional so that your future relationships will be healthier. I wish you well.

Answer 7

OK, here's the thing darling, some women can't stand strong as other women can. I strongly suggest that you try and speak with her to find out what the problem is. I understand you love her very much - I think she has something going on and is afraid to tell you. Unless she cheated on you or something worse - I strongly suggest couple and individual counseling. And yes, I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 8

I understand love and I wish you the very best with your love, I am in a long distance relationship and I miss my guy so much, and all I want to do is be with him, but God will bring him and myself closer some day and that's what you have to hold on to, God will help you through this.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

with the one you love, there are no emotional barriers. there is little distance. this is why it is so easy to get hurt.


last time i put my all into getting a girl, it was like pulling the drain out of a sink; i might as well have spent every waking moment trying to move the moon.