I am worried for my daughters safety at school the Principal is doing NOTHING should I send her?

Question

My Daughter is in 8th grade and she has gotten beat up by this same girl 2 times THIS YEAR this last time we knew something was going to happen so my daughter went & told first pd that this girl was going to do something and she told her to go and tell a teacher she was busy. My husband went to the school 2nd pd not knowing what had happend 1st pd & told them something was going to happen with this girl and she said ok I'll call them both down. my husband came home and 1hr later school called and said there was a fight My daughter got pulled in to a classroom got her head slammed on a desk &punched & kicked in the face a number of times! I went in MAD & brought her home was told that she was in NO trouble we got home and she called us & said she was suspended 5 days this girl is still thretining her I told the school they do NOTHING I applied to another school and they ruiened that somehow Now they are saying if I dont send her back they will call child services should I send her?

My daughter was walking to her locker and the girl grabbed her from behind and started hitting her and then she pulled her in to a classroom and slammed her head on a desk... I was told my daughter was in no trouble she did nothing wrong only blocking her punches. I have tried to get her in another school but she was denied because we told them she was changing schools Waverly called the school where we want to send her and told them things to make them look good and my daughter look bad. (I have 2 older children and she was just as ignorant with them) my daughter has never been in any other kind of trouble at school what so ever.. I have contacted the superintendent but they all seem to stick together.. also this girl is doing the same thing to many other girls she thinks she is tough and if they dont bow down to her she beats them up too (she has gotten inschool suspension since she has gotten back to school for fighting AGAIN) I am really upset that the principal is allowing this!

Answer 1

it's very difficult dealing with this issue with schools. there's always the passing of responsibilty between parents and schools. now you say dhs may be invovled! i would make sure you are calm when you speak with the school, whoeve it is, and state you expect better protection for your daughter whilst in the care of the school. until they could garantee she would be safe, i would say you are not willing to send her.
alternatively, if the school is not going to take any action, i would fo and visit the girl's family and try to talk calmly to them. whilst this may possibly make matters worse, it may also bring it into perspective for the other family with just what's going on. make sure you take your husband with you, and not your daughter.
fianlly, send her to a different school.
my sister had to do this with her son, he is so much better for it, his confidence is finally beginning to soar!
all the best with it.
ps
changing schools may not actually solve it, often kids are a typical bullying target; send her to a counseller or learn some good antibullying techniques yourself and help her to protect herself with her body language and social interactions.
finally, she could also learn martial arts to give her physical protection.
good luck.

Answer 2

Maybe you need to talk with the teacher and notify her that you expect copies of these notes BEFORE they get to the principal. Document what is being said in the notes. If the principal takes no action, go to the administration with these copies, or in the least with just what has been happening. Document each and every time this has happened to the best of your ability, and don't let it continue. This is NOT good for your daughter or anyone else. This needs to be stopped, NOW. And, this is a 6 or 7 year-old??

Answer 3

First; I would check to see if she were totally innocent. Could be she's pulling a fast one on you. Secondly, if she isn't deserving, the home school option sounds good. Thirdly, if she isn't deserving and was truly bullied without provocation, request a meeting with mediators present between the girl, her parents, the school officials involved and their bosses, and see if charges could be avoided and work out the school attendance issue as well before fourthly; filing charges if there are grounds to do so. You might feel silly if you jumped the gun and didn't have the evidence to back up your daughter's story 100%. Talk to witnesses as well for yourself and record statements on video tape. Fifthly, if she were truly a victim, the D.A.'s office should have some help by way of counseling. I'm sure peace can be made without going too far. Pray for your enemies and those who despitefully use you, forgive them but move your back from future stabbings!

Answer 4

If you can you should withdraw her from the school and enroll her in another school within the county. Also report this to the school system. The school your daughter attends now could get in trouble for this. Obviously the principle in the school is not doing anything and doesn't care......I'm sure you have talk this over with your daughter, but try talking to her friends and peers. See why this same girls keeps picking fight or if it's your daughter. Someone needs to get to the root of the problem before it's taken to another school(if you decide to withdraw your daughter) or gets completely out of hand.......The conflict could result in more students getting in trouble. Usually more than the people fighting have something to do with the problem.

Answer 5

Come down tack a deep breath yes a child can not miss more than 15 days or she could stay back.after you send her back tell the predicable if this continue to happen you going to have to go to the Bord of education an tell them your concerned about your daters safety a this school. Tell them that they need to put a norther police officer in the school. Tell them that you wont that five day suspension removed from her permit recorded because the other girl started the fight because she threw the first punch.Find out who the other girls momma is sit down and talk to her lesion i Sade talk dint get in the same situation be a adult in the situation and have your darter to sit down with that other sit down with that other girl and talk.It cloud be a misunderstanding or something. Tell the school you applied for another school and they returned it.good luck email me and let me know how it works out.

Answer 6

My daughter is almost that same age, and if she were in a similar position I would go to the parents house of the girls who did that, KICK the fricking door in and beat the hell out of anyone (Adult) who was there. Then I'd go tho the principal and SUE his *** personally not the district the principal himself. Threatening his lively hood will get his attention real quick. They can threaten CPS but you just say she is being home schooled and they can do nothing!

Answer 7

1) File charges against the other girl's parents with the police. Also call your lawyer so they could start contacting the other girl's parents to pay for hospital bills, etc.
2) Complain to School Board and demand them to be responsible and overide local school's neglect.
3) Write letter to your local newspaper to make your voice heard. It's possible your girl may not be the only one neglected. Gather lots of support especially from mayor or others who are involved in the government.

Answer 8

Call the police, the superintendent of the school, and the school board. Document with photos any bruises or cuts your daughter has. Take daughter to doctor and get illness/injury excuse if possible.

Answer 9

You could take her out for the rest of the year and do some home schooling.. Then when she gets into Highschool next year sent her to a private school.. Kids this days.. Good Luck!! Hope your daughter is doing ok...

Answer 10

I am so concerned for your daughters safety. I have a son and I love him to death. I would go the the schools main office if the princiopal is not doing nothing about it. It is better if you get somthing in writing and present it to the main office. May God be with your family and protect your child. GOD BLESS.