Im in a empty marriage,,really would like a good friend,,but its so hard to find....missing ALOT in my life,,would like to have a man in my life who cares,,, husband has given up on me,,(gave up yrsss ago) have tried so many things to encourage our relationship for so long, but nothing has worked,,,havnt felt a mans touch for over 10 yrs and miss all those feelings,, miss giving all those feelings to a man,, hate feeling so empty for so long,,,but know I shouldnt stray from the marriage,,but how long do I go??,,,,I know this sounds greedy,,, but I cant see myself being this lonely,,this empty,,this emotionless (if thats even a word) for much longer,,it hurts,,Really NEED someone,,,,,any men that need a friend?,,a true friend,,someone to care for them,,someone to enjoy them for who they are,,,,would love to meet a you,,even if its just for talking online,,emailing,,,just a friend,,,if your feeling empty or alone too,,lets talk,,email or message me,,or leave your email address,,
2006-12-05 11:49:24 · 25 answers · asked by sHyGaL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's only one word for u whore...enough said
2006-12-05 11:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i know its been a long time but dont give up and resort to a possable affair.
firstly could you both see a therapist (he could be impotent and thats why he has withdrawn, through fear) or another issue such as hes cheating, has a mistress. or it could be another medical issue. FIND OUT! ASAP!
secondly if you really are unhappy and its not the first i suggest you consider a seperation for a while 3-6 mths this might change your husbands attitude and shock him into being a husband not a usless lemon! and may rekindle the romance and also give you the oppotunity to 'have a social life.
if after that nothing has changed or an attempt to get things on track hasnt been made get a divorce and start a new life as a single woman and find that man you will love you and give you the attention you need
it is very difficult but you could get sucked in by somebody elses attention and end up even more hurt.
hope you sort thing out. good luck
2006-12-05 11:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from but what you are saying is that you need a quick fix solution to make you feel better and fix up all the hurt. It doesn't work it will hurt you more in the long run. Take a look at where you will be in 10-20years if you stay in your life, do you want to be what you see? If not try to change the situation. Once you are happy good things will come your way they won't until you stand up for the person inside you and mend the hurt. Good luck it's a long but fantastic journey, when you come out the other side you will wonder why it took you so long.
2006-12-05 12:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Fido 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is no way to live - you are in an empty marriage without any intimacy of any sort. Why are you still there? What's preventing you from striking out on your own? Yes, it would be difficult after so many years, but I can't imagine you want to spend what's left of your life miserable. If you have a career and you are financially set, maybe you should consider a separation or divorce. If you are not prepared to strike out on your own, get an education and a better job going and then go for it.
2006-12-05 12:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl
You can have amile friends even if their relationships arent empty. Many of us can listen and talk with you on line. Really, all you need is someone to have you hear what you are saying/ You havent explained why you havent gotten divorced
Although Im in a relationship, she understood found I was contated by a women who was my best friend years ago and who I love, in a different way. She was happy that I spoke to her and visited her 1000 miles away.
Take the first step and talk with people here
2006-12-05 12:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop don't beg for affection. Get some counseling to find out what went wrong in this marriage and why. Learn a little bit about yourself and then find someone who you can see, talk too and get to know in person rather then any good, bad, murder out there. Learn to like yourself. Your better then this. A friend in one thing but anyone is not a good thing. Stop and think what you are doing before you do anything.
2006-12-05 11:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the first two responders, your not a whore.
Just lonely and looking for friendship, I believe your going about it the wrong way. You won't get much support on this sight.
You need to end your marriage and move on.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-05 12:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married that long and feel so down, why didnt you divorce along time ago, thats a lot of years, to be down, get out there have some fun.
2006-12-05 11:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you still with your husband just leave him and be truly happy with some one else talking with some one else will only make things worst, set your self free first and then have all the friends you want to. don't hurt your self anymore leave him and do what you enjoy doing most good luck...
2006-12-05 11:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Itza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation and sympathize with you. I know you dont know me from adam and have no reason to trust me but just wanted to say please becareful of what you seek on here as there are a great dealof weirdos out here and would just love to take advantage of your situation. Im just a concerned friend and dont want to read on here that you made a mistake and seek legal help,so please just be careful in your decisions. Good luck
2006-12-05 11:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be careful if i were you. your sounding a little desperate and you may be. maybe try taking a college class or get a 2nd job. go to church. ask your friends to fix you up. it is sad that your feeling so lonely but be careful, you might end up in worse shape than you are.
2006-12-05 11:56:46 · answer #11 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋