me and my wife have a great relationship but i want more. i want to feel the way when we first dated.but how?

Answer 1

I LOVE YOU!

Answer 2

Tell her she's beautiful, not hot, sexy, cute, but beautiful and mean it. Make time for her, make and effort to cook like once a week, help pick up after yourself. Surprise her by buying something special, not flowers but something more meaningful something that shows that you understand her. Run her a bubble bath with candlelight and just let her relax. Don't expect sex all the time but be greatful when you have the opportunity. The less you ask the more you're likely to receive. For most women it's the simple things that you no longer do that turn them on the most when you've been married for a long time.

Answer 3

Hugging

Start by just holding your lover close and pressing her body
against yours. As an aside a lot of women get turned on by their
lover smelling their neck and shoulders.

Stroking

While still holding her close start stroking her back. If she's not
already, lie her down on a bed or sofa. Move your hand up and down
the side of her body, exploring the curve of her hip. At this stage
you may like to let your hand slip down to her buttocks, just to
tease her.

Kissing

Now kiss her. It's important when kissing to start slowly, so no
tongue, just a soft pressing of lips. Gently suck her lower lip and
push your tongue out just a bit, subtly coaching her to open her
mouth. Then as her mouth opens push your tongue in further and
press your lips harder against hers.

Of course not every woman likes to be kissed in the same way, but
the above is what I've found works best.

From her mouth move to her neck and other parts of her body.

If you haven't already now is the time to take off her top.

Breast fondling

By now your lover should be quite turned on. Place a hand on her
breast and softly caress it. At the same time use your thumb to
feel how hard her nipple is. Usually at this stage she'll want her
bra to be taken off so that she can really feel your hand. So reach
around her back and undo her bra clip (that is if she hasn't
already).

Take a moment to just admire her body. Tell her how beautiful she
looks and how much she's turning you on. Then take her nipple into
your mouth and caress her other breast with your hand.

Genital touching

Time to start paying her vulva some attention. Move your mouth from
her breast and softly kiss down her tummy to her waist. If she's
wearing jeans undo and unzip them, and either let her take them off
or take them off for her. Same thing if she's wearing a skirt. Move
back up her body and kiss her again, deeply, and at the same time
place your hand between her legs, over her panties, and gently rub
her. While still kissing her move her panties to the side and very
lightly touch her vulva with your fingers.
Next

What happens next just depends. If you like you could go down on
her. By the way, some women find it more of a turn on to give oral
sex than receive.

At this stage she may want to take control. She may start grinding
her hips against you as a signal she wants you, or she may start
touching your crotch.

One important thing to remember is that sexual excitement follows a
pattern of gradual increase in physical and emotional sensitivity -
in other words, start slow and increase the stimulation as arousal
mounts.

Here are some other ideas you may like to incorporate into your
foreplay routine

Massages.
Dry sex.
Erotic literature.
Talking sexy.
Using whipped cream.
Fantasies.
Teasing - make out that you're going to do something but stop just
before you do it. Done right, this can drive some women crazy with
lust.

Answer 4

Its called growing up. Life doesnt always give us what we want so we learn to adapt to what it does. Its not having what we want but wanting what we have. The feeling you desire when you first dated is long gone past but now the secret is how to achieve it now when you two are older. Its within you, you just have to realize that the girl you married is the same girl you loved back when , just a little older but remember youve aged in her eyes too. Times change and so do people, but remember the grass on the other side is not always greener. Good luck

Answer 5

You guys are both different then when you first dated so it's impossible. If you want to rekindle some 'newness' feelings, then do something new together. Go on an adventure that sounds fun to you both, take soem cool artsy course together, make time for just eachother and doing something fun/fresh.

Answer 6

Start treating her as well as you did when you were first dating and get ready for a great response.

Answer 7

'date' her like you did when you first dated--it'll be fun and you both can get to know each other all over again. roleplaying while dating is also good--pretend you are two strangers who 'happen' to meet somewhere, strike up a conversation--make it up as you go of course--have fun with it--see if you can 'pick up' your wife again

Answer 8

Both of you should be more open in the bedroom to add a little spice into it... That should make it close to when you were dating.

Answer 9

than be the man u were to her when u first dated.

Answer 10

Maybe there is somthing your doing wrong..Look into that