He can be really nice to me but somtimes he is a jerk. If he has a bad day at school he takes it out on me and it makes me feel terrible. He tells me everyday that he loves me and that he wants to be with me forever!! but I dont know if he is being for real or not. so how do i know??
2006-12-05 11:29:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he's a jerk and you need to ask - no, he doesn't love you.
2006-12-05 11:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classic --- Guys grow up sooo much slower than gals do! Likely, he will be a jerk for quite a few more years. At least until he learns to control his emotions! A great many guys don't learn this until they have kids of their own, so it can take a while, IMHO!
Some guys can surprise you though and they seem to grow up overnight (almost)!
Yes, he may actually love you (I still love my first love). However he needs to grow up and treat you the way you should be treated! If he hurts you physically, dump him and move on. You will a great many other people in your life to love!
Bare in mind that many (not all) guys will say whatever you want to hear to achieve their goal(s).
Regards,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-12-05 11:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to express that you don't like how he takes his bad days out on you. Let him know that you love that he confides in you and that you want him to tell you about his bad day but let him know that you don't appreciate having him take it out on you and making you feel bad. Maybe he doesn't realize he's doing it. If he loves you and truly cares for you he will apologize for his irrational behavior on you. If he calls you crazy or says your overreacting then you should take into SERIOUS consideration about how he really feels. If he does that to you now, imagine what it will be like if you get serious and have even bigger problems and he just writes you off as nuts or too emotional. In every relationship there will be problems and fights. It's all about how you approach and solve them.
2006-12-05 12:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by mrd1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a very emotional person. Maybe you are a 'calming' force in his life and he needs you if he tells you everyday that he loves you. Perhaps your strength will be a great example for him to not be so irregular with his moods. If he gets moody ...remind him...by saying, ok, Im gonna to give you some space so you may calm down, then we can talk again when youre feeling better. :) Peace.
2006-12-05 11:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is he? sometimes we dont really know what 'love' really is. we think it is the thing we see in films... but it is so much more complex. and if he is being a jerk... well we can all be jerks at times... i guess the question is... do you really love him. are you willing to stick with someone when he is a jerk and makes you feel bad about yourself?
2006-12-05 11:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by whiteafrican01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe that your in a potentially bad relationship. If your a young person, this is not the relationship you should be having. I truly believe that LOVE is not the issue here. Someone may "love" you and treat you like CRAP. You wouldnt stay with someone who tells you that they love you, but hit you, cheat on you, hurts you, lie to you. Think about it. Because your a young person, this could set you up to seek other unhealthy relationships. Good luck
2006-12-05 11:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: No.
Long answer: If her loved you he would never take out his anger on you. You aren't a doormat, so quit letting him walk on you. The real test of his love will be how he reacts when you tell him that you won't allow him to treat you that way any longer. If he walks then he didn't love you...if he stops doing it then he does. Pretty simple, but you HAVE to tell him to stop.
2006-12-05 11:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you then he wouldn't do things to make you feel terrible.It could be possible that he's venting to you and not purposely trying to hurt you.What I would do is sit down and talk to him about your feelings.Every guy can be jerks at times.
2006-12-05 11:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you and only you know how much of this BS you are willing to take. You know your limits. If you know how you deserve to be trated and how you want to be loved, act on it. Communicate your feeliings to your guy about his behaviour and set boundaries. Love and respect yourself because if you dont, then he sure as hell wont.
2006-12-05 11:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you feel deep inside of you that he really loves you? well you can know in alot of ways you can jus know by simply some of his gestures and yes sometime they can be jerks but thats how all guys are that why we say we cant with him or without them it weird
2006-12-05 11:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by GaBriLeLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him before he dumps you. if he's treating you like a jerk Anytime than he IS a jerk. find a guy worth your while because you deserve better!
2006-12-05 11:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋