I'm a girl, I'm almost 13 years old, and I'm having a huge problem. Alot of my friends know that I'm bi, and I like other girls. There are these girls in my old school that I'm crushing on. I love them. They mean everything to me. They don't know I like them, but I'd never tell them. I can't do anything about it. I can't stop thinkin about them. Theyre straight. What can I do? I really need a girlfriend. I dont even like guys that much. It's just too hard for me to be this way. I was thinkin of getting a gf online, but it doesnt work. I need an answer asap, cuz I just cant live like this...
2006-12-05 11:29:22 · 8 answers · asked by Lil D 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, I'm more open minded about things, but I think you have to make sure you are really physically attracted to both sexes (or the same sex) first. Really try to sit down and consider your feelings. Many females go through a "girl-crush" phase around your age. Make sure that it is truly your orientation and not just a phase.
But you don't have to act on it, just let things happen. If they like you back that way, they will let you know.
You don't NEED a girlfriend (or a boyfriend). I know you really want to have someone to call your own, but realize that it is better for you to assert your independence now so that you can build stronger relationships later on.
Online only relationships rarely work. If you know they are straight, then they may always be "the ones who got away". Everyone's life has those kinds of disappointments. You'll find someone for you. Talk about some bi or lesbian people with them. See how they react. If they are open minded enough, maybe they could set you up with someone if they aren't interested themselves.
Hope it is soon. Take Care.
2006-12-05 14:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by joannaserah 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say that you should try talking to some other people and see if anyone knows anyone else that is bi like yourself and try talking to them. You're not too young either. Most older people think you are but the truth is that younger people have a better perspective on love than the seasoned(old) people. I hope you have alot of luck. kudos
2006-12-05 11:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you are twelve. you need to grow up. it bothers me that you are so quick to slap a label on yourself, and go public at school...
don't make any final, or drastic decisions about your sexual preference or having a girl/boy friend until you get a little older. and daydream all you like about who you have a crush on...but keep it to yourself!
investigate your feelings, and attractions, by all means...but learn some subtlety-- don't go too public, or be too emphatic about choosing your special someone...
romantic matters, are after all, personal...keep your private business between you and a Few very trusted friends...as you grow older you will learn how to subtly let someone know if you are interested in them and/or find out if they are interested in you...
slow down...it will all work itself out as you grow older...
2006-12-05 12:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by waterlin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, it sounds like you might not be bisexual but rather completely homosexual. At any rate, I don't think you should be getting any kind of partner at such a young age. You're not physically ready for it, you're probably not mentally ready for it, so don't do it. Let yourself grow up a little first.
2006-12-05 11:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
at 12 you are a bit young to worry about having to have to have a girlfriend.
Just don't worry about it. live your life normally , make friends and meet people and sooner or later you will find that things will more or less fall in place for you.
2006-12-05 12:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you can. because if you dont you will be depriving your soul mate of YOU when you two are ready. right now you are acting like ANYBODY will do. Go play with your good friends .see movies and play v.games and forget about your hormones for awhile Good luck!
2006-12-05 11:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
id worry about school right now...
people will just judge you
2006-12-05 11:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
umm. your a little young for love my dear
2006-12-05 11:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋