I have a problem with my bf
he has been in love with me for two years. when i asked him about his intentions he said that he has to finish his studies and find a new job. i waited and suported him then asked again for his intentions he said that this will be after his brother's engagement.
Now his brother is engage but he asked me today to wait longer for 7 monthes until he finishes the 1st stp of his post graduate studies.
he loves me i'm sure but Don't you think he is selfish?
he even haven't met my family...
2006-12-05 11:22:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
He has enough money, a good job and he's highly educated!!!
2006-12-05 11:24:00 · update #1
Well, you should forget about that dude!!!
2006-12-05 11:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since he's at the end of his studies maybe he really wants to be set and ready with is work before he makes a commitment. Some boys feel rushed and pressured when it comes to this so don't go down on him too hard. You can always talk to him to ease stress of his mind but don't go too harsh on him too soon. Good luck.
2006-12-05 19:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by letseat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hasn't met your family yet sounds like a concern to me,I can't help but wonder why.It doesn't sound right after all this time.Your better to hold off and see if his choices are the best in both of your interests.
2006-12-05 19:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is selfish at all.
He is open about it. I would not rush him. It is very easy to get married but not so easy to stay married.
You want him and yourself to be 100% sure of what you both want. Give him a chance.
As far as your family goes, I would be not happy if my BF wasn't interested in meeting them and seeing where I came from. He is wrong on that one.
2006-12-05 19:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u sure he loves you? sounds like he keeps putting you off? maybe because you let him. it's simple either you want to wait around forever (because there will always be a reason) or you can let him know how you truely feel. why are you going to keep waiting for him if he's never going to be ready? i know it's hard because you love him but you need to think of yourself also. isn't what you want just as important?
2006-12-05 19:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its realy hard to tell but id say that he wants to finish his studys to get a worthwile job to support a family if you two plan to marry either that or he may not be ready but is afraid to admit this becuase he dosent want to upset you
2006-12-05 19:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Demon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Sue
Don't pressure HIM
He will... just give him time
to establish himself
YOU will not feel different after
you get married
Don't believe the
FAIRY TALE
YOU will always have
Bumps to drive over
xxoo
2006-12-05 19:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I think your being selfish, you dont need to be married to be committed. Give him time, he's a man he needs to be secure in himself to know hes ready to take care of a family of his own.
2006-12-05 19:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by sixteensgrl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend is being a little selfish. i guess he's busy...maybe. but u should talk to him and tell him how you feel and maybe he will understand. good luck
2006-12-05 19:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by harold g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm, sounds like maybe he's scared to commit...talk to him...don't rush him, though,it will only push him away.
2006-12-05 19:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by INSANE SUGARPUFF 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u luv him, ull wait
if u dont, than ull break up
2006-12-05 19:28:58 · answer #11 · answered by 2Cute2bTrue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋