i wasnt really attracted to girls in 7th grade. I heard people go through "phases". Am i? I dont have any objectives against homosexuals, i just dont want to be bi :( . I know there are somethings you cant change about yourself, but this one i wish i could; but its really hard...
advice?
2006-12-05 11:07:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hey thanks guys, everyones answer really helped a lot.
yeah, im Christian, which is another obstacle. Im really strong in my faith too, and being gay or bi is looked down on..although i have a few poeple at church that are bi..
but thanks for your help guys, keep em coming
2006-12-05 11:24:18 · update #1
It is not uncommon for a pubescent teen to have an attraction to a member of the same sex. This does NOT mean they are homosexual or even bisexual. Give it time. If it's a phase, you will grow out of it. If you don't, read your Bible and determine how you want to live your life.
2006-12-05 11:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people know from a young age that they're gay or bi and others realize it later in life. Being gay is really something that I wish I could change about myself but I can't help who I fall in love with. I was married to a man for three years and was very very miserable. Now I've been with my partner for 4 years and am more happy than I've ever been. I have a 10 year old daughter and I hate that she has to deal with having gay parents but that's just how life goes sometimes.
I don't think you have anything to worry about right now. Most women do have thoughts of being with other women at one time or another but it doesn't always mean anything. I think this definitely could be a phase. You're still young, you'll know for sure in a few years.
2006-12-05 11:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by teamo94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I went through something like that 8th-9th grade as well. I was so scared because i didnt know what was going on, but I dont know it just went away and I am happy as ever with my boyfriend. I never had an experiences with girls just weird dreams and thoughts, I am sure youll be fine! Good luck honey. By the way iam only 18 its not like this happened ages ago
2006-12-05 11:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by incubabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very common for kids and teens to "experiment" with their feelings and to be confused by them. You're completely normal in that aspect.
I did the same thing...around 8th grade I started being attracted to other females and I was so confused by it and didn't know what to think of it. I've always been extremely accepting of the gay community though, been raised like that. So I just let myself BE WHO I AM. I finally realized that I AM bisexual...and I am definitely ok with that.
Just be who you are and don't worry about what society or your peers or your family will say or think. You have years to sort out your feelings and see where you stand with your sexuality. Don't be ashamed!
2006-12-05 11:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Megan V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i say go with what your mind tells you...weigh the pros and cons. Don't be scared homosexuality is "in"...since it's out there. Maybe it's just a fantasy and not reality. Your in 8th grade don't sweat but don't follow the crowd. Be yourself! Just know there is a price to pay for your actions. The grass isnt always greener on the other side.! oh yeah DON"T EMAIL that girl who gave you her email addresse. be safe not stupid! Sick people out here who would even go there. Oh yeah and don't go to an OLDER CHRISTIAN MALE...go to the source God. Go talk to your parents, councelor, best friend. C'mon I know yiour young but be safe!
2006-12-05 11:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one in the world that is not tempted to do something wrong sometimes just for the sake of it. You need to make up your mind to do what is right and turn a deaf ear to those who say otherwise. God created you, and it is his plan for a woman to be with a man and vice-versa. He knows what is best for us. God loves you and doesn't want you to hurt yourself. This thing your talking about is a road to destruction. These older people who embrace "homosexuality" are going to tell you that you are the way you are and you can't change that so just give in and be proud of who you are. This is a lie. You need to turn from this and seek the Lord. He is the one who really knows who you are supposed to be.
2006-12-05 11:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by adrian b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm the same age u r, and going through stuff ur going through too. If u really think ur bi, just stay that way, thing may change later, but u really shud accept who u r, just like i did. It doesn't really even matter that much, cuz u can still like girls and guys at the same time. my email is medallionfighta3@yahoo.com u can messege me anytime
2006-12-05 11:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lil D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient with yourself. Grade 8 is too young to be doing this stuff. Wait until you are at least 17. Your mind will be a little clearer then.
Not everyone does it so young-it just seems like it.
I waited and it was a great choice.
Peace
2006-12-05 11:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by James S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sexually attracted to girls (more than just "see's pretty") than you might very well be bi. Don't stress it so much. As long as you're not acting "bi" because you think it's "cool" or some stupid reason like that.
2006-12-05 11:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait a couple of years, I think. Heck, teenage hormones can make you fall for just about anyone. I think you are probably still young enough to be going through a "phase".
2006-12-05 11:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋