I love my bf but he is really into porn and after he see's the girls in porn he looks at me differently not in a good way at all mostly in disappiontment. He even suggested me getting surgery Breast implants and butt implants.I am 5 ft 6 and 110-115 pounds slim and a little curvy but i have always been slim and it hard for me to gain weight. I am only a 32A boob wise and i did go to a plastic surgeons office and was told that a 18 yrs of age to wait because i will fill in more once i am 20.What to do?
2006-12-05 10:55:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are pretty much engaged at the moment and i even tried watching porn with him but i am just not into it and he got angry with me.I feel very sad and hurt .
2006-12-05 10:58:15 · update #1
Tell him you like the way that you are
2006-12-05 10:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by *♥~♫ jonas_love*♥~♫ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOUR 18!!!
WHAT ARE YOU THINKING!!!!
You have all you life ahead of you. You should NOT be engaged. Go to school, date, get a career and then think about settling down.
Everyone needs to pull their fair share in life and getting married at your age will just make your future messy. If you two are really serious then what is the rush? You should be able to be faithful to each other until later in life, like after college and you have a career. Do you get my point yet? Get an education, have fun, and get a career NOT A JOB a career. Then and only then think about marriage and a family (after say 10 years of marriage). I bet if you do what I say you will live a very happy life and if you don't you with remember me one day and say "that SOB was right".
2006-12-05 19:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell would you get engaged to a guy like that ?? Love is supposed to be unconditional !! You sound perfectly fine to me. You should not have to change the way you look for anyone !! especially someone who wants you to look like a porn star. Who the hell does he think he is ?? Just be yourself and if he doesn't love you for YOU then look for someone that does !! Does he not realize the work that goes into making porn stars look as good as they do ?? Tell him to grow up or just move on !! Best of luck to you .
2006-12-05 19:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my bf where he could go to get that kind of chick is what I would do. My rule of thumb is that I will not finish what some chick on a porn movie starts for him. Tell him if he does not like you the way that you are then maybe he should try one of those chicks in the movies, But remind him that his penis does not look like or compare to the men they are doing in the movies and suggest he have it enlarged. I bet he will quite pressuring you then.
2006-12-05 18:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by May_May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this selfish loser. If he wants a porn model, let him go date one. He should love and desire you for exactly who you are and what you got. The plastic surgeon was right to turn you away if you're going to risk the complications and discomfort of surgery just to please some guy who will always be looking for something better.
2006-12-05 18:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. You are too young to get caught into the man pleasing trap. You shouldn't want a guy who watches porn anyway. It places unfair and unrealistic expectations on women and no whore is going to dictate to me how I should be and no john who is paying for perverted gratification is going to tell me how inept i am physically. Tell him to kiss off and that you are totally please with the way God made you and if you decide to have surgery it will be your decision not some prick.
2006-12-05 19:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by kyle g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he can not accept you as you are it is not you, but him that has a problem, it would not make any difference what you do this man is in to comparisons, and that only leads to unhappiness. Tell him he needs to get a reality check and when he can do an be like the male porno stars you will trade him off just like he will do to you
2006-12-05 19:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend wants you to look like the girls on the porn movies. Just because he wants you to do it doesnt mean you should. If your happy like you are tell him how you feel about it. It will make him respect you if you tell him you'll do it when you feel like it, if ever.
2006-12-05 19:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't go through with what he asks of you. you need to do things for yourself and not because a man tells you to. if his comparing really bothers you, let him know. i know that it would make me very upset and that my bf would stop immediately if that were the case. the women in porn are either extremely rare or extremely fake. plus if he really loves you, he'll love you the way you are, it sounds cliche but it's true.
2006-12-05 19:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK FOR ANYONE! If a nasty, skanky a s s 'ho is what he wants then tell him to go audition for a porn movie! He'll have his pick of the skanks then!
2006-12-05 19:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him then you should try talking to a therapist it really works!! or if not try and change him into not watching porn and tell him that if he doesnt like your body HE CAN GO TO HELL!!! i mean you can just get another bf!!
2006-12-05 19:01:25 · answer #11 · answered by junior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋