I want to know what other's think about men who cheat on their wives continuously and will not leave her. (Background) Met some guy who spilled the beans and said he is cheating on his wife with another women. He said he has a good marriage and a good family. They were trying to have a baby and recently found out that that she is infertile and now he is seeing the other women for eight months. Why would he do this to her? Why doesn't he leave?
2006-12-05 10:55:13 · 6 answers · asked by VON 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every situation is different. Men/women cheat for all different reasons. You cannot categorise "cheaters". I agree with you, he should leave...all men/women who feel they are not being fullfilled should either work on their problems or leave...not cheat...it causes too much pain for everyone concerned. Maybe he thinks he is doing the right thing by not leaving her. Lots of men think that way, and women sometimes know their husbands are cheating but will take them on any terms. Sometimes they are the reasons the man feels obligated to stay because in a lot of cases the women pile the guilt trip on the man and then he feels responsible to stay because its what his wife wants. In other cases they dont want to lose the security of what they have built up, eg, a house, the material possessions. In other cases they have projected this role to others that they want to maintain by playing the role of the "husband" Like I said every case is different and there are very few situations that are black and white. A person cheats for a reason, and it is very rare a man/woman will cheat just for the hell of it. There are problems that we on the outside do not see. We can pass judgement on "cheaters" if we want to, and it is very easy to do, but we do not have the feelings this person has, we are detached from the things he/she is feeling, therefore it is very easy for us to make a value judgement. He should leave her because it is wrong to keep her believing he is being true to her, he should leave her to allow her to find a man who trully loves her. He is being selfish...but we dont know what she has said or done to make him feel obligated to the marriage, if anything....only he knows why he stays and in his mind they are legitimate reasons. We can persecute, we can judge, but we cannot enter the mind of another person....and that is the only way we would ever know why people do the things they do.
2006-12-05 11:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me for 10yrs. These type of man are not happy with them self's. Most of us (women) blame ourselves. These men leave when there ready to leave. If they leave at all. They don't want other man to have want they have at home. These man know they have a good women and kids and there not ready to hand over want they say is there's. There very selfish people. Also some men like this for example like my husband he didn't want us (his family) no more but he didn't want know one to have us eight er. But most of these type of men at the end regret want they did. Because the women they loved the most has moved on and the kids are grown. And these men are not happy people. They (some) act like they are but there not. tears of a clown when know ones around
2006-12-05 19:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to. The wife is probably clueless and he gets to have the good home life and sex with as many women as will fall for his lines. Also, any women that he does get involved with cannot expect anything from him because he is married.
2006-12-05 18:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by threelucy2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sad but it happens everyday . men and women cheat its fact of life . MEN are jerks sometimes and we shouldn't let them get away with it ever .
2006-12-05 19:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many reasons, maybe they need the 2 incomes or cant afford a divorce or they stay for the kids....or they will just take it wherever they can get it. for some guys its an ego thing....they want to see if they CAN get other women.
2006-12-05 18:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one expressoin "they can have their cake and eat it too". They have the dreamy home lives, and security etc...and they do love their wives etc. However, the other side of them yearns for spontaneity, sex, something new, secretive etc. Anyway, I don't agree with it, but that is my attempt at an explanation.
2006-12-05 19:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋