okay here is the dilemma. I had been in an abusive realtionship, more verbal than physical. I finally got tired of being abused, he went to jail. He spent more than a year in jail and upon release he forced his way back into my life.
After only two weeks he started with the verbal abuse again. Then two weeks ago he started the hitting and knocking around. i called the police and he held me from opening the door. After the police left he started his stupid **** again, we tussled for the phonebut i won and was able to call the police again - i fled a report - little did i know that the charges would be false imprisonment (for not letting me open the door the first time), assuault on a female, and communicating threats. His bond is $12,500. Let me add that he is not on drugs & attractive as hell. It wasn't a bad enough incident to be thrown in jail, No!! i don't want to be with him anymore but it's christmas shouuld i get him out?, it'll cost $1,250 and i won't get it back.
2006-12-05 10:43:04 · 17 answers · asked by Jazz 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Seriously, doesn't matter if it is Christmas or what if you bail him out then you are setting yourself up to a crazy possessive ******* that its obvious that if he has done that in the past it won't matter if you want to be there or not.....I have seen relationships like this in the past that have gone from worse to death....First he starts to stalk you, you have to get a restraining order which only keeps him 100 feet away....And then more obsessing brings him back to push the issues further and thats when it gets bad....Attractive and not on drugs is no reason to feel sorry for an abusive SOB.....WOMAN UP, stand your ground, and let him have CHRISTMAS where he belongs.....
2006-12-05 10:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mad Harry Roberts 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, what does his being "attractive as hell" go to do with it? If he was ugly, you'd leave him there?
Anyhow, the police just made whatever trumped up charges they were in the mood for on him. Only a judge will decide what's actually valid. Half of those will be dropped, if he gets a good PD or lawyer. ALL will be dropped if you refuse to prosecute.
You already know you need to leave him alone and I have no idea why you keep accepting him back, so I won't repeat that to you. But the bail money is up to you. If anything, you should first see if you can get his family and friends to help out since you say you're not getting it back.
2006-12-05 11:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by xoxo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES HE DOES!!!
The reason these things are illegal is because they are BAD!!! Stop justifying his behavior!!!
Not only is it okay for you to have filed charges, it is your responsibility to do so! If he doesn't learn this lesson, he will only continue to abuse you, or (God forbid) someone else! If you bail him out, and then he beats the heck out of his next "girlfriend", won't you feel guilty for letting him get away with this violent crime (that's what it is, you know!)?
If he were a stranger, who imprisoned you in your own home, and then hit you, wouldn't you press charges? Of course you would, and it would be all over the newspaper the next day! The headline would read, "Woman Held Captive In Own Home"...why is it different, just because you know each other?
It is HIS FAULT that he's in jail, not yours. You should definitely NOT spend any of your money on a man who obviously cares so little about you.
2006-12-05 10:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank God that you live in the United States of America and law protects you from him. Make use of the power of that law, please. And I would advise you to move to another state, if you can... and never look back.
Been there, done that.
Without putting him to jail, of course.
In my country there was not enough law and people to stand up for me. You should never let that person enter your life again. EVER AGAIN. You need to learn to protect yourself from such idiots. Go learn Karate, or some other martial arts.
Save yourself. Wish you the best! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.
2006-12-05 10:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by warm candlelight and tea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 02:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt you will end up in another abusive relationship...if not with him...with someone else. What are you thinking? He most definately deserves to be in jail. You better stop worrying about him and start trying to get help for yourself!
2006-12-05 12:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about the word "enabler" don't you understand? Lady, nobody says the world is a fair place in which to live. If he can't do the time (whether it's fair or not) he shouldn't do the crime. Of course you'd be dumb to bail him out!!! Please find some counseling to help you figure out how to require that folks respect and honor you.
2006-12-05 10:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
"Assault on a female"? What kind of lamebrained charge is that?? While I certainly don't condone beating women, how is it more of a crime to hit a woman than to hit a man? I thought both were assault, period. Any legislature who passed that law forgot about the Fourteenth Amendment's Equal Protection clause (assuming you're in the US).
2006-12-05 10:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rick N 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes he deserves to go to jail, he obviously didn't learn the first time (and niether did you for that matter.)
And No do not get him out, maybe he'll learn this time. Will you?
2006-12-05 10:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by vonwasden 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No.
The spiral of domestic violence that you are in, ends only one of three ways:
You get rid of him.
He gets help - or
One of you kills the other one.
He won't be as attractive as hell when he is choking the life out of you.
Leave him there and get on with your life.
2006-12-05 10:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋