I suppose that people recognise even if unconsciously their own weaknesses and instinctively see those as vulnerabilities to attack in others. But on the other hand this seems so transparent to me, and renders their accusations futile or self defeating. So why do they do it?
2006-12-05 10:40:41 · 11 answers · asked by Enquiring minds want to know 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
All of the previous answers are part of the reason. Another reason is, by blaming other people for things that someone is guilty of themself, they can mentally justify their own problem by thinking "well, everyone does it". If everybody does it, then it is not important enough for them to change.
2006-12-05 10:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by computerguy103 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I recently figured out that someone I've been close with for the last year is actually a complete narcissist. It took a while for it to come to the surface, but when it did, her self centrred traits all became very obvious. At that point, I questioned her about some things that took place in her past regarding a few badly damaged relationships with her ex husband and her daughter and let her explain it to me. Once I did that, she became very hostile and angry, and eventually began casting all of the blame on them. Now, she's making every attempt to do likewise with me over a few problems that we've had. She doesn't realize what a dead giveaway she is to herself. She has since been asked to not feel obligated to ever contact me again...ever. Beware the narcissist and the sociopath, they are often one on the same.
2016-02-24 02:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by bruce 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The 'nature speaker' is present day in all persons. it particularly is only obvious while a guy or woman has 'a accountable experience of right and incorrect' approximately some thing they themselves did. A survey of nasty 'human beings vs effective human beings' grow to be undertaken wherein a pattern of 40 human beings grow to be asked what they factor to the persons shown them in pictures. 20% of the effective human beings have been condescending and derogatory concerning the pictures seventy 3.2354% of the nasty human beings did the comparable. Lesson discovered? Dr sarah Bellum - dafterton rates; 'You my buddy have only been had'.
2016-10-14 02:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to accuse and inculpate others because they always want to look perfect, flawless and righteous. Nobody wants to be defeated. Nobody wants to be blame. And no one wants to look erroneous or imperfect at all. Not even Pope, Haji, Pastors or Priests. Everyone naturally wants to be the righteous one. People have a nature that always try to strive to fulfill the picture perfect of epitome of an ideal and utopia life.
People judge and impeach others because they cannot accept imperfections in their own picture-perfect of an ideal and utopia life at all. To them all the imperfections in this life are fatal, woeful and noxious. So instead of admitting their mistakes which is a natural product of human imperfections, they accuse others to mask their disability to accept blemishes and deformities in this life.
At the end of the day, it's more about a matter of pride and ego within yourself. Pride, ego and self-righteousness often could lead people to the worse. They are your dog; are you walking the dog or the dog is walking you?
2006-12-05 10:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Humans are not perfect. If they accuse others of there mistakes it takes the focus off of themselves. People need to take this quote into consideration before doing such things "the one without sin cast the first stone"
2006-12-05 10:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bambi 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is called Projection of Guilt......when you are feeling guilty for something youve done, you tend to put it onto other people.....
I learned about this from an exgirlfriend. I couldnt figure out why she kept acccusing me of cheating on her - until I realized she was the one cheating....
2006-12-05 10:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Human nature---
pass the blame - point finger away from your-self.
share the guilt.
don't call these people friends...
I stay away-avoid these users.
2006-12-05 10:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because of their pride! Pride will destroy relationships and will bring out the worst in people. It's because of pride that we have all the problems in the world and broken homes and hearts! Good observation, thanks!
2006-12-05 10:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by HotInTX 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's called "projecting" and it very common. We "project" the things about ourselves that bother us onto those we love (or don't) and belittle them for those things.
2006-12-05 10:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Tracie M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what im asking is what is the word for these people.
2015-04-11 07:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Gary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋