My wife and I have been married now for about a year. Before we got married our sex life was great, but it almost seems like a chore. It seems that we only use one position, only in the bed, and only before we go to sleep and it's getting really boring. My wife says that I'm too big and it hurts sometimes. I try to talk to her about our sex life but she never wants to talk about it. She thinks I'm pointing the finger at her, but I admit that I have slipped myself. I don't do the things that I used to do, because it seems like she rejects me everytime. We only have sex whenever she's in the mood and if I reject her then she gets upset and says that I don't find her attractive or cheating. I love my wife with all my heart, but sex is like a chore. I'm not trying to get my wife to be a porn star, but I just want her to open up more. I have ran out of ideas. Someone please help me. I don't think I could take another loveless night.
2006-12-05 10:27:11 · 4 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also. I have tried to talk to her about it, but she syas that she is satisfied and that pretty much wraps up the conversation. Talking doesn't work. I don't want to cheat or leave her. She is always feeling insecure about her body. I tell her that she is beautiful and gorgeous, but it never helps. She is always depressed about her weight and body. It's driving me crazy.
2006-12-05 10:38:28 · update #1
I am wondering what happened in that year to you guys? Did you have a baby? Did she gain any weight? Why is it slipping in only a year? You need to be open and honest with her, that is key!! I tell my husband all the time when there is a problem in the bedroom. We used to have mind blowing sex before we got married WOW!!! We have been married for almost 3 years now, and our sex life lacks a lot too, for different reasons. I am wondering what are your reasons? Sex is important in a marriage and should be approached like any other problem you may have, she cannot ignore you if you're not happy, so you need to find a way to make her listen. Good luck to you.
2006-12-05 11:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? If you and your wife can't talk, your relationship is DOOMED! The thing is you have to tread softly when you bring this up. Tell her something like "Honey I love you so much, and I am FEELING (big word) _______ about us. I really want to know what I can do to make things better for you." They key here is that you have made it an issue that she feels comfortable with. If you tell her "damn girl sex ain't there anymore" she is going to react. It is critical that you communicate your needs and feelings to her though. Otherwise, you are going to still love her and stay with her, but when some hot woman makes a sexual advance towards you, that animal inside who has been neglected is gonna take the bait. It'll work until your wife finds out. Then you're toast as is your marriage.
2006-12-05 10:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by enit4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lead up to it give her some space then try just giving her a cuddle and show her how much u love her for a while when u watch tv 2getther play with hair rub her back tell her u miss her u want to b close with her let her open up 2 u just step back and b the best u can b and she will come 2 u dont make it an issue or it will become 1
2006-12-05 10:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how u feel honesty is the key to alllllll relationships so be honest with her and dont get upset or she prob. will get mad from they way u described her .. just follow ur heart and speek from it !
2006-12-05 10:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by linny !! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋