How can I get over the hurt?

Question

I am 5 months pregnant and my boyfriend told me the other day that he has wandered if I got pregnant on purpose. I was on the pill and that was the only pre-caution that we took, I DID NOT and WOULD NEVER EVEN CONSIDER getting pregnant on purpose esp. before I was married. He said that he thought this because we were having trouble at the time & trying to figure out if we really wanted to be together. He had thought that maybe I got pregnant to keep him around. How can I get over the hurt of knowing that he could think that I would do something so horrible?

Answer 1

I think it goes through all men's head at some point, especially when there's problems. My man and I were in the middle of some really hard times when I got pregnant this time, and he has hinted around about the same thing. You just have to remember to be strong, just because he's acting like an idiot, doesn't mean you have to succumb to it. Blow it off, in all honesty when the baby gets here and six months from now it won't matter to anyone, not even to you. Good luck and congrats on the baby!

Answer 2

I understand the hurt you feel. I wonder if friends have been feeding him those thoughts. Honestly, honey, I would tell him what you said here about being on the pill and the reasons why you would have never gotten pregnant on purpose. Explain to him that it hurts that he would even consider that. After that, just let it go. In a couple months your gonna be a mother and have more important and wonderful things to worry about. Take Care and Good Luck.

Answer 3

Everyone knows that is the oldest trick in the book.Millions of women tell men they are pregnant to get married.But since you didn't, concentrate on the new little life you will be bringing into the world. Surround this child with as much love as you have.It will take time for him to accept the fact that he is going to be a daddy.Focus on the baby. The reason you got pregnant doesn't matter anymore.Enjoy this miracle and blessing from God. Good Luck

Answer 4

Don't let it get to you! You have so may other things going on in your life to let people bring you down. It isn't your fault that you are pregnant and don't blame it on yourself. He is just pointing fingers. But tell him to leave you alone and that he needs to accept it as it is. Yall are pregnant and there is no turning back. Yall have a little baby on the way and he and you will love it no matter what.

Answer 5

hormones are wild in pregnacy and yes men act funny too. dont dwell on it or else things could get worse with his feelings. let it go and thank him for the wonderful child growing inside of you. give him time to realize that hes going to be a daddy. remind him that pills arent always 100% a safeguard against pregnancy. afterall it took both of you to get the baby. when he points the blame finger at you, four more are pointing back at him!

Answer 6

congrats to you (not him cause he is being a baby) guess what you arent the only one responcable for birth control he could have used a condom!
if he doesnt want to he a dad the to heck with him
dont get married because you are having a baby tho

Answer 7

Just realize that he made a mistake saying it, don't worry about it. Good luck with the new baby.

Answer 8

You just have to. I know that it hurts and you'll never get over that until you tell him how hurt you are. But you have to get over it for your baby. Good Luck.

Answer 9

You have bigger things to worry about, like establishing paternity and making sure your bf lives up to his legal obligations.

I would talk it out with him, using "I think" and "I feel" instead of "you make me feel..," etc. Fight fair if you have to fight.