I am a teacher. AFter a mistake of my coworker's, a parent got very upset with me. I smoothed over the situation with the parent, but when I tried to speak with the coworker about the mistake, the coworker yelled at me and denied all responsibility. I have 2 witnesses to this. Tomorrow, we need to meet with the boss to discuss the situation. I want to speak up firmly, but not be overly aggressive. How should I approach this? Should I speak first, and how much do I say? I want him to look really bad!
2006-12-05 10:13:36 · 5 answers · asked by clarabel_s 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
The best way to make him look bad is to remain cool. If the guy yelled at you about his mistake, he will problably try to be super agressive in front of the boss when he denies his involvement. If you have any documentation, have it ready.
As far as what to say, I would let the boss determine how much info he wants by his questions.
2006-12-05 10:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Hulkerino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the situation you are now angry because this worker put you in a bad situation and now you want him to look bad. All understandable. The truth is your boss will probably not get rid of the co worker and you will have to continue to work with him. Inform your boss cooly of the facts and respectfully and insist that this person takes responsibility for his actions, that your performance should not be diminished in a parents eyes. Sweetly state that you understand his embarrassment but exploding at you is not fair for his inadequacies.
2006-12-05 19:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last statement is the one that raises a red flag for me.
You SHOULD want resolution, not to make another person look bad. Your motives will show and the boss may find that offensive, as I do.
It is not usually valuable to have a co-worker feeling defensive and hateful to you for the rest of the year.
As to who speaks first: That is the boss' call.
I hope you can work this out and be forgiving even if the other person does not ask for forgiveness. Forgive them anyway. it makes YOU look GOOD. Yay
2006-12-05 18:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you should always do is document all events. Take the time to write down what happened and include time/date. This will help you when it comes to discussing the situation with your boss. Make sure that your witnesses speak or give you a written statement as to what they saw/heard.
2006-12-05 18:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by gg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call your union and make sure that a rep. is at the meeting with you. You should never meet with administrators in this kind of situation without one. Have copies of all documentation with you. Write down everything that happened and photocopy it, take a copy with you. Make sure to stay in control and even if the other person starts to yell make sure you do not.
2006-12-06 00:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋