Here is a ? for you men about pornography?

Question

When you are married regaurdless of whether your wife has changed in appearance because of childbirth,or just letting herself go why dont you all try letting your wives feel like they are that sexy woman you all like looking at. I dont understand why you need to look at other women to get pleasure when your wife is desperately wanting you. I just dont understand this part of a man. My husband is a good man but when he was looking at this stuff it bothered really bad. I dont care if he checks out a hot chick but I dont like the thought of him fantasizing about another woman and making me feel like I am nothing because it did happen and we almost divorced. I can live the rest of my marriage life not checking out another man I am married and i dont care to see another man naked I married the one I want to pleasure and love me and take care of me I dont need pictures to make my marriage better. Just want to know why this is why so many marriages end?

I am not trying to make any men out there look bad your not I am just trying to get an answer for all the women out there who want to know the same answer.

Looking isnt so bad but when your man is looking all the time and letting you know whether its on tv,computer,or real life if their doing it obsessively there must be something wrong. My husband has went behind my back and went to strip clubs,ordered porn and buys these mag their not porn but very sexual ever heard of them Maxim orStuff. He looks at women to much and I am not just talking about naked ones here. He is not a model himself but i dont care i love him for who he is not just his looks etc.If it were reversed you know you men would be mad at your woman and she would be called everything but your wife. So if I look at other men do you really think my husband is going to be ok with it no but if i did it would give him more ammunition to do it more. Thinks are much better since we had our issues with this he doesnt do it anymore he told me its not worth losing me over but i wish he wouldnt of done it to begin with. Boy wouldnt all you men hate having me for a wife.

I dont have this problem anymore i am just asking becuse so many women on here want to know I look fine and everything here is better so this isnt about me and i dont think this is the only reason couples divorce. And finally i am not saying men are bad guys because of it just wanted to clear all that up.

Answer 1

some guys just dont get it that their wife girlfriend w/e loves them and if they married them or have been dating them for a while they shoulndt care what they look like because marriges and all relationships based only on looks and sex dont last. so if that is all the guys wants he doesnt deserve a girl who loves him.

i know this isnt a direct answer but i bet you can come to your own conclusions about it from this.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First, this is not why so many marriages end in divorce. Actually very few end because of porn. More end up because of actual affairs/unfaithfulness. No one will ever understand why married men get pleasure from looking at porn. A priest once told me that married men look at other woman because they are just admiring Gods handiwork but to look a second time was adultery. Men are really stupid and dont fully understand what they actually have at home, and for some unknown macho male ego trip, they look at whats available, when they should be realizing what they got is so much better then whats out here. Women being the smarter of the sexes knows what she has and doesnt need to wonder. Maybe this is why God took longer to make a woman and men are awed by this artwork. Maybe theyre just missing what could have been.Sorry, dont really have the answer to this old question

Answer 4

For many porn is a sexual addiction. It is very hard to break and requires alot of committment from the man to overcome and make it through recovery and few very do. The facts are that few people understand the damage that it does and the thousands of marriages and lives that are destroyed every year because of pornography. There is a very common thread between men who are addicted to pornography and their ability to show emotions to their partners. There is a great yahoo support group for partners of sex addicts. If you don't believe that pornography destroys the women whose men are addicted to it, become involved in the group and read the pain and suffering that occurs from it. The main thing for the women who loves a sex addict is that it has absolutely nothing to do with her. Once the truth is revealed most will find the man had the addiction and the inability to function properly in a relationship long before she came into the picture. So the main key is to NEVER allow him to place the guilt on you. It has nothing to do with how you look or how you perform or if you had a baby, ect......... it is all about his inability to emotionally connect to someone whom he is sexual with. Within the fantasy world that a sex addict lives there is no emotional attachment between him and his fantasy so there is no expectations for him to live up to. It is a very difficult and extremely sensative issue but one that should be taken very seriously. There can be healing and marriages can survive, but only if the addict admits that he has a problem (no diffrent then drugs or alcohol) and is willing to seek recovery. Good luck to you. After living with this for 25 years and having it destroy my home, family and marriage I would not wish this on my worst enemy.

Answer 5

You fault men for looking at porn, but seem comfortable with a wife that "is letting herself go". Would it be OK if a hardworking husband decided to "let the job go" and stop trying to support his family? Or, quit shaving and bathing? Now, certainly, a woman changes. Few expect a wife to stay 22, but some women AND men think it's fine to put on a hundred pounds, and quit caring about their appearance. If your looks matter to your husband, you should also care about your appearance. My wife is 43, and weighs about as much as when I married her. I too, weight the same as I did when we married, 14 years ago.

Answer 6

I think it's a difference b/w men and women. Men are very visual. They can see a naked woman having sex and not have an emotional tie to it. That's why it's harder for men to see porn as cheating. Women are more emotionally attached to sex. That's why porn doesn't really interest them as much, and other reasons.

That's why I think affairs where the wife is cheating is worse, in a way, because she's most likely emotionally attached, where for a man, it's usually just sex. I'm not saying one is better, or acceptable, just a difference I have noticed.

I don't think your husband is wishing you looked like these girls as much as he just has needs that you cannot fulfill b/c his needs are probably once an hour.

Answer 7

I know this is for men but, I'm a married mom 3 kids age 10 1/2 and 8 1/2 I'm 36 weeks 6 days pregnant. I have never had a issue with my husband looking at porn "he dose not obsess over it just now and then he will watch something". Even being currently pregnant it dose not bother me in the least. I know he thinks I'm attractive, i know he picked me, he loves me, he loves our family. He still has eyes he is visually stimulated. I look at men I've gone with girlfriends to male strip clubs during our marriage. Heknows i know where my head and heart are. I'm married not buried. I think it's unnatural to deny that urge to look at other people. BTW neither of us have perfect bodies magazine looks we are average overweight married couple.

Answer 8

I read some of these answers from guys. I'd hate to be their wife or girlfriend. We have you babies and you really want use to look exactly the same. Get real. One day your hair will fall out, your ba11s will sag down and your di*k won't work and then what are you going to expect from you your wife? It works both ways. Wait and see. sweetiepie your man is a selfish ba$tard.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

May sound off the wall for a guy to say, but I think porn is kinda dumb. The women may look good but really there pigs! I have to say I hate being lumped in the cliche of men like porn! To me seems like its weak to have to get excited about sluts doing 8 guys at once. Also find strip clubs lame as well.....go find a real women or notice your wife......