My husband is a perv , should i leave???

Question

The last 5 years I've been a good wife and mother, nothing is missing in our couple, well that's what i thought!!! until i found out recently that my husband is a pervert a porn addict.....I feel so diminish and i'm scared that he would cheat on me, should i run before it's too late. I can't stop thinking about it, but my kids are so attached to both of their parents, and he loves them very mcuh

and no i'm not some kind of frustrated freak, i gave him all the freedom , let him browse and watch what ever he wants but things are just getting out of hands and when i did talk to him he acts like if he is the victim........

Answer 1

well I don't believe in divorse, definetely NOT if there r Kids involved. Maybe you should try to work it out. But it only works if both people want it. So Best of Luck to You!

Answer 2

If he is replacing porn for sex with you then yes it is wrong. I know you feel betrayed because he wasn't honest with you about him looking at the porn.
I can tell you just because he looks at porn doesn't mean that he will cheat on you. However if you find porn repulsive then he should respect how you feel and not look at it any longer. I would say if you have a good marriage then this will not be a problem that you can't overcome.
It is very common for men to look at porn I would say 80% maybe more enjoy it. Don't throw away a good marriage. You can overcome this.

Answer 3

Well to tell the truth my wife thinks that I am that also, because of "an addiction to porn"....Maybe I am addicted to porn but the reason I do it is for many different reasons, but mostly I appreciate the beauty of the woman(her eyes, breasts, butt, legs, how she looks with her legs over each arm of a chair, and mostly just how she looks).....Certain porn sites cater to the fantasies that men have and could never achieve with their wives...Try to understand his addiction, open a line of communication, and discuss the matter as the loving adults that ya'll obviously are...If after that discussion you still feel the same way then consider more drastic actions....But understand that looking is just a release and it would be better if most wives could understand...

Answer 4

All you can do really is talk to him. I had the same problem with my fiance. I couldn't take it no more, he would get so many horrible pictures on his phone of women with big fake t*ts an videos of women stripping and masturbating. I looked on his phone and found them, it broke my heart. I made him delete it all but then he would get some more of these things behind my back. I just had to tell him to stop or else i would leave him, i had to do this several times, now there's no trace of porno on his phone and we get along so well, happily ever after. Just talk to him, threaten him a little saying that you'll have to leave him if he doesn't stop, tell him it's really hurting your feelings and you want to be the only one he has eyes for. If he loves you enough he will not cheat on you so don't jump to conclusions, tell him you are scared of him cheating on you. If you really are a decent, married couple, you really shouldn't have a problem in talking and sorting this out. Good luck

Answer 5

Just enjoying looking at porn doesn't make hubby a pervert, any more than looking at attractive women makes a guy a cheater. Yes, some porn watchers are perverts. But, some of any group are perverts. Unless there is more to it than just looking at pics, lighten up. He's probably a loving husband and father, who likes looking at women. Since there are billions of people that also like porn, you should realize that it's usually harmless.

Answer 6

So you found out his secret until recently. So, during the time that you did not know, was he less of a man than you thought? Different men different strokes, so to speak. Unless he is into child porn.... let him be. Better having that outlet than having an affair. BTW just because someone like porn, doesn't mean he is a pervert.

Answer 7

I agree with most of these people here. I recently caught my husband of 3years watching porn too!!! He denied it at first and then admitted it. I know he watches it every time he is at home by himself on the Internet. It shocked me so much because I thought our relationship was better than that, I thought he would have told me about it. But he said he didn't know what I would think........I know he loves me and our 2 kids, so I stay with him....I do feel betrayed.
I don't think your husband is a pervert. Give him a little credit, and stay with him. If you still love him, you can overcome this, just like I did ;o)

Answer 8

does his porn take away from the time he spends with you and the kids? or is he still doing his fatherly and husbandly duties and just looks at porn occaisionally on the side? All guys like porn, and ya know what? A HUGE amount of girls like porn too. Maybe you should check it out together and see what happens? If his looking at porn doesn't interfer with you daily lives or finances, then I doubt he's got an "addiction"

Answer 9

Your husband is strongly addicted to porn and has a problem.
Please don't get pissed off with him and cause a fight. Fighting and making threats is not going to solve the problem.
Wth the magical spirit of love, tell him that his porn addiction really bothers you and that he is not the person you thought he was. Tell him that if he really loves you, seek help before the porn destroys the marriage.
You have to stand your ground and don't back down.
Its important that he feels your LOVE AND CONCERN FOR HIS PROBLEM.

Answer 10

Contrary to popular belief, I do not think watching porn is cheating. The fact that you were ignorant of it for so long suggests this, too. Has your sex life been good? I watch it with my man and it actually elevates the excitement. Granted, it may not be for everyone, I understand that, but if he is a decent man, a decent father, a decent lover and a decent provider, I wouldn't dump him, honey, he'll be damn near impossible to replace.

Answer 11

I am so sorry to hear this. Believe it or not, this is every mans struggle. I know for myself. This same thing has destroyed my marriage. I have 2 kids, a boy and girl in their teens. we have been married for 17 years. I didn't get help until after she moved out. But in her mind our relationship was over. Don't let this destroy your family. Fight for it with love and compassion. There is hope if you can get him to understand how much this hurts you. I suggest that you go to: http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/home/
I have been helped, I know your husband can be to. Use this to strengthen your marriage, not destroy it.
I told my wife about my problem because I knew it was destroying us, but she didn't keep up with it. He needs to tell a close friend to keep him accountable.
Good luck and God Bless.
Tony G