How many women blame their ex husbands 2nd wife for them being an absentee father? Especially if she has kids. My ex husband is a horrible father who goes months without calling & I always blamed his girlfriend of 9 years because when I went out with a guy I always made sure his kids were involved with everything so they never felt left out.. But now I'm beginning to realize that unless she stopped him from calling which a real man would never let happen, its not her fault it's his. What to you think?
2006-12-05 09:30:52 · 10 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Miss Jose you are 100% right, there are two sides but I take 70% of the blame for the failure of the marriage, but I told him that if he called his kids once a week then I would give up recieving child support, he said he couldn't do that it wouldn't be right but yet still doesn't call
2006-12-05 10:00:07 · update #1
You hit the nail on the head. No woman, can keep a "father" from his children, not a real father. Take a look at your children's father, isn't that why you divorced him!
2006-12-05 09:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are always 2 sides to every story. I'm sure your ex husband tells his new squeeze that you are the biggest "you - know- what" on the planet. Just as you are sitting here telling us that he's the worst father...
I think when you step back (it does take two) and really set aside your differences the truth comes out. Do you really think most women would try and stop her new b/f from seeing his kids? I think most women are more compassionate than that...
Your ex-husband may need a slap of maturity.
2006-12-05 09:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Jose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thing it's mostly his fault but a decent second wife would encourage her husband to stay in touch with his children on a regular basis. However, oftentimes the 2nd wife resents the child support he has to pay. This situation is all the worse when the husband cheated and left for the 2nd woman.
2006-12-05 09:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay being a stepmother to three children I completely think it is up to the ex spouse to have contact with his/her kids. No one can tell a grown adult what they can and cannot do so I would not put all the blame on the 2nd wife.
2006-12-05 13:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an adult that can make his own decisions about being an absentee father. It is his choice to keep in contact with his children and not his current girlfriend. She cannot control the behavior of your ex.
2006-12-05 09:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by TERRI L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have arguably the most evil stepmother out there. my dad came around with any other women before her, but she was pregnant months after they met and bam a half-brother. dad was ok for about a year at staying in touch then his new family was too important. we are all adults now and he is sorry now. still married to the old ***** too. i blamed her for a long time, but my dad should have done the right thing no matter what she said. he knew right from wrong. too bad for the kids :(
2006-12-05 09:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by jibjab1978 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real man wouldn't allow his fear of upsetting his girlfriend to keep him from his kids. He had the choice to pick up the phone and show up. If he cared, he would have dumped her and found a less selfish woman. It's 100% his fault.
2006-12-05 09:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, the way I see it is, frankly no anything kept the ex-husband away from his children but him, we as women need to stop this sh** of believing that another woman kept him from his children, well if he had half a brain, he wouldn't let anything, including a woman keep him from his children.
2006-12-05 09:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by antwone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has very little to do with the other women (second wife, girlfriend) and everything to do with who that individual is as a man. If he chooses not to be responsible, then he will not. If he chooses to be responsible as a parent then he will. Just my opinion. God bless****
2006-12-05 09:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband sees his daughter on a weekly basis and made his feelings clear b4 we got married it doesnt matter how many mind games or how much crap his x gave him he would never give up seeing his daughter he is a brilliant father and i respect him 4 many things but above all for that.his x would like it if he lost contact with her daughter as long as she still recieved her cheque shes said as much
2006-12-05 10:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋