why do women take back men who has been unfaithful?

Question

recently a friend of mind told me that her husband had cheated on her, again. I said again, why did you not leave him the first time it happen .She said because she love him .My question is why do women feel like they have to take back someone who's been unfaithful .

Answer 1

cause they are dumb and insecure. they think no one else will love them.

Answer 2

Because they need another lesson. The ones who won't take a cheat back are fast learners. Some women need a lesson or two. Some women never graduate. Maybe they're addicted to the highs and lows of the off and on.

Men truly are devastated when a woman leaves them for their bad behavior. They truly are s-o-o-o sorry. They really do love her; they're just not capable of translating that warm, fuzzy feeling called "love" into respectful action.

So he really is telling the truth. "Oh, poor me. I love you so much!! I just can't make it without you." It makes a woman feel good to be generous enough to forgive. Plus she gets to take back a man she probably does still love.

Unfortunately the truth is that if she doesn't take him back, it won't be long before he finds another true love, whom he will treat in the same fashion.

It is work to start over - much more so for a woman than for a man. He just keeps on doing what he's been doing - looking for a conquest. The only difference is that he doesn't have a nice warm home to come to. Well, at least not for a little while.

Answer 3

This is from my own personal experience. It may be because she feels as if she couldn't get anyone else if she left him and being with a cheater is better than being all alone. Also getting back out into the dating world is scary and she may be afraid if she tried then she'd wind up being hurt again and that another man would just do the same to her or worse.It's most likely all about the security of at least having someone there. Or maybe she really does love him a lot and wants to give him yet another chance(which is nuts), but I'd say it's more about the security thing.

Answer 4

In the western world, women do none of the initiating of relationships. Their strategy is basically, try to look good, and hope some man is attracted enough to seek a relationship with them and do everything involved in making it happen.

That is a TERRIBLE strategy that results in them being mostly dateless losers, hoping to get lucky. The older a woman gets, the less effective even this, relatively poor strategy becomes (women are terrified of getting old for this reason).

The bottom line is this. A husband cheating on them does two things. The first is it makes them real insecure about their ability to attract a man. They feel he is cheating because she just doesn't have it anymore. Since he doesn't want it from her, no one else wants it either. The feeling here is that if he actually leaves her or if she leaves him, that's it. The rest of her life will be spent alone.

That's why.

Answer 5

I think the reason why some women take back men who have been unfaithful because the think that there is something wrong with them. Too many women blame themselves for their guy cheating in fear of being alone. They may lack self-esteem or lack independence. Some women are finacially dependent on their men and felt that they have invested too much into their marriages to let him go.

Answer 6

I do not know your friend's personal situation, BUT, there can be many reasons- is your friend financially stable/secure apart from her husband? Do they have children? Has she kept her looks up or will she remain single and alone forever if she leaves? Also, there are alot of women who are in bad relaitonships and stay there for a reason- they are trying to fix something- and its not as simple as finding a man that they want to make fit a mold, it can stem from childhood... they say girls with absentee fathers will likely find a man who is distant/not available emotionally or physically (travels alot) to try to RE-DO her childhood and make it turn out 'right' this time around. They say both males and females who are abused as children will likely find an absuive partner. Its not a conscious decision but something subconscious and out of their control- therefore they will choose to stay, hoping next time will be different. But for both men and women, when you're in love OR just in a committed relationship for a long period of time, you will grow attached and have a hard time leaving, the phrase "love is blind" is actually scientific- they show people in love have chemical reactions inside their brain, and it dims the activity of the part of the brain responsible for making judgements... its hard to simply leave... you want to believe and have hope that they are sorry, that they still love you..

Answer 7

Women are simply products of their own raising....If she came from an abusive childhood she will accept abusive men....If anything she has ever known is sorry *** cheating men, then guess what....It is nice though to have the satisfaction of being able to change the mind and thought processes in these women so strength can get them past those guys....Because everything that any of us know is a learned response.....It can also be unlearned....

Answer 8

Women take back unfailthful men because of pure comfort. They've already established themselves with these men, and feel that things can be fixed, or that the man will change. Note: Men DON'T change for ANYONE. It may be crazy and it may not be right, but comfort is one thing that will keep a person running back to another no matter what.

Answer 9

Because most women are more afraid of being alone than of being with someone who treats them badly. I used to feel that way... Now I realize taking him back was shutting my window of opportunity for happiness... Give your friend all the positive attention you can, so she will be able to rebuild her self-confidence and realize she's worth more than that, that there is a life out there without the pain of betrayal.

Answer 10

insecurity, fear of the future, low self worth, they think they are in love, and that they don't deserve better. they want to make it work no matter what the history of the relationship is. sometimes it has to do with finances, or having to get a divorce and having to split the marital assetts. many reasons why. just plain fear and not having any confidence in theirselves.

Answer 11

a lot of reasons...could be that she's really in love with the guy, could be a fear of being single, she might feel like she cant do any better, could be for the kids...