Parents Getting Divorced - Im Going Mad?

Question

Hello,

I am 15 and my parents are splitting up. It's what is known a s a messy divorce constantly bickering and now an order has been set. therefor my father is unable to come within 500 yds of my house i have to walk or get dropped off to go with him.

I am constantly hearing 2 sdes of the story being told by each of them to do this and that....its driving me mad but i dont want to upset either of them, i dont thijnk they will understand.

This is driving me to tears and i cant take it anymore what can i do???

please give your advice

Thanks You

Answer 1

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your parents are behaving badly -- you should not be exposed to any of this. Do you have someone you can talk to, a minister, rabbi, school conselor, someone you can trust? That would help. I would also recommend that you tell your parents that you love them both but don't want to hear either side of the story anymore. You are their child, not their confidant.

Good luck. I'll be thinking about you.

Answer 2

Well there are a few things you can do:
One is to tell both your parents that you love them, and that you love them both even if they are not together anymore, therefore that it's not fair for you to have to hear bad things about the other one.
You need to be able to love both of them, and they need to talk with other people about what's wrong and how they feel.
If you don't find the guts to tell them directly, write it down, it will give you time to find the right words, and you won't have to face the immediate reaction.

An other thing you can do is to ask to go live with an other member of your family like your grandparents for example, at least for a little while if you feel it's really to hard to stand.

But take the time to talk with your parents, and if you need get outside help and other adults you trust to talk with you and your mom and dad.

Good luck.

Answer 3

just let time fly by