so my best friends grandfather, uncle, and aunt passed away last year. Obviously a very hard year for the family and I was there for support at everything I could be. I go to her concerts and to her special events but when it comes to me and my events and deaths in the family she's not there. my granny died 3 months ago and she said she would be at the funeral and she never showed up. She said she was going to be at our concerts and she never showed up and tonight she calls and said she's not comin to the concert but didnt give a reason why. I feel like I try so hard but dont get the respect in return... What do I do?
2006-12-05 09:22:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have talked to her 2 or 3 times... now what?
2006-12-05 13:40:40 · update #1
i think you should confront her about it. if she doesnt know, she probably doesnt think it is bothering you, and wont change. if after you tell her, she doesnt do anything about her behavior, find another person you trust with your secrets whenever you have a problem, or want them to see your concerts. im not saying you should ditch your other friend, because it sounds like she needs to talk to you to get things off her shoulders but is a little self-centered.
2006-12-05 09:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens to me and one of my best friends. Like between classes she always gets all her things (textbooks, notebooks, pencils, homework etc. etc.) mixed up and all over the place so she is always late for classes. But i used (notice how i put used) to be there for her and we wud be late for classes together. But then 1 day for a change all my things were mixed up (and hers wasn't) and i had no idea were they were, so i thought (notice how i put thought) she wud be there for me like i was there for her. Nope NOOOO she was not. That is y i dont be late to classes with her anymore. Because if u let people do stuff to u like that (cuz trust me thats not the only thing she has done) then there r just gonna push u arround, like a worker, not a friend. If things keep on getting worse like she bosses u arround or makes u feel like u dont matter, dont be there for her. she will then no how it feels. But it is called Karma. So if u do good things for her then u will get good things in return, maybe instead of her (being there for u) a different friend, or a crush. And her not being there for u some 1 wont be there for her. so i wudn't worry TOO much on it. hope that helps!
2006-12-05 18:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Keeaumie ♥'s sk8ers & Josh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry 2 hear about ur g-ma. I'm the type of person that has no problem wit dropping a friend and I think u should drop her bcuz she's doin nuthin 4 u when u need support.
2006-12-05 17:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sexii Choklate89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have had that problem you need to grab her and talk to her FACE TO FACE Ask her that why are you doing that and maybe if its not a really good answer maybe tell her we shoudnt be friends see her reaction and judge her by that now this doesnt mean that dont talk to her at all say hi and bye or whatever new friends can be a great sucess!! Good Luck!
2006-12-05 17:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and tel her how U feel and Maybe she will give you the respect U want and If she dont give it to u tell her that your friendshiop cant work out any more
2006-12-05 17:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Justice D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she uses you becuase you find the time to go and be with ur friend but when it comes to you she dont she should at least give a reson she is a not a good friend i would not be friends with her no more
2006-12-05 17:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by katelyn b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friendship is all give and no get. Really one-sided. You should be looking for a better friend.
2006-12-05 17:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not a REAL bestfriend - especially when you comforted her and she didnt return the favor i would confront her and let her know how you feel if it seems not to bother her that u are upset ....dump her there are alot of people out there to be REAL friends with
2006-12-05 17:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by s_klintworth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her best friend, but she is not yours. She's not a giver. You have to decide if you are willing to maintain a one-sided friendship.... and/or discuss it with her to see what's going on.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-05 17:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way
dont even think she is a friend
she is obviously an obnoxious snob who doesnt hvae any time for anyone but herself
get away from her
2006-12-05 17:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by funny.bones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋