A little help from the women ??

Question

I formerly worked in an office predominantly managed and staffed by women. One 20'ish woman was openly soliciting opinions regarding qualities she should look for in a "sperm donor" (her words) for her planned single pregnancy. When asked I suggested she wait until she was married. My suggestion ended in a suggestion that I needed sensitivity training.

We have no problem telling women not to drink alcohol, use drugs while pregnant because we know that on average the children benefit from the mother's avoiding these things. We have no problem telling kids to pursue education, even though we all know Bill Gates was a high school drop out. On average education = better life.

Why do we have a problem confronting the fact that children raised in married households are on average happier, healthier and less likely to commit crimes ?

Correction, Bill was a college drop-out

Ms Scarlett - congratulations on beating the odds. Anecdotally there are many success stories, unfortunately, the vast majority of kids raised by single parents have a much worse time in life than children raised in a married household. In 2004 90 % of the children in Ivy league schools came from intact, married households. The child starts socializing from day one and his or her opinion towards the oppositie sex and marriage are primarily formed by the household they are raised in. If you don't like the men you see today blame the enviroment that taught them their values. The same enviroment that you are defending.

Answer 1

That's a good question.
That's just one of those truths that people don't like to hear. Often the truth hurts and people don't want it. Lots of people just want to do whatever they want to do, and they don't want to hear about the consequences. It's very sad.

I remember when I used to teach preschool it was really sad because most of the children and parents did not have the same last name, and if you assumed and called the parent by the child's last name, that was considered rude and offensive. I was also responsible to know who could and could not pick up each child. I could not just assume both parents were legally allowed to.

People call it sensitivity, or sensitivity training, but what they really mean is, don't tell anyone what is right, thell them what they want to hear. (And Lord forbid you tell or even suggest to anyone they are wrong about anything)

Unfortunately that is the world we live in. I wish it were better and I could give you a prettier answer.

Answer 2

I can see your point to a certain extent. It is not necessarily true though. My son is extremely happy, healthy, well adjusted and married to his high school sweetheart. I raised him by myself as his daddy was a drug addict and an alcoholic. If I had stayed with him my son's life would have been bad or at the very least harder. He was taught to respect his elders, to love his country, to love his mother, forgive his father for his short comings, to work hard, play harder, stop and enjoy life. In short he did just great in a single parent household. I
One of the main reasons that single women are choosing to have children via artificial insemination is that while they want a child they do not want to have to deal with a man that is not dependable. Let's face facts here. The men (there are exceptions of course) have gotten less responsible. They do not feel the obligation to support , protect, encourage and nurture the family like they used to. Men are not interested in fulfilling the responsibilities of family life. That is why some young women who are successful and financially secure are opting to have children with out the marriage.

Answer 3

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