I am married with 2 kids. My ex GF is married with 1 kid. Neither of us very happily. She came up to me in the bar 3 months ago and apoligized for being a b*tch to me 10 years ago and basically implied that she still had feelings for me. Since then we have been e-mailing each other and when she sees me in the bar I always catch her looking at me. I think I still have feelings for her. What should I do in this situation?
2006-12-05 09:20:17 · 15 answers · asked by bigboy56073 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you answered your own question you think you still have feelings for her. You both are in a bar drinking and that leads into other things that you will regret. Apparently she isnt happy in her marriage and is looking for some console. Think about it if she wasnt flirting with you would you have thought about getting back with her? If you get back with her i promise you will regret it because if it didnt work then what makes you think it will work now. STOP and think about your and her family do not break up a home. Are you willing to step in and be a step parent. Beside you never look back move foward. Let her know that you all can just be friends dont be no fool. The Devil is a lie and the truth aint in him. Once you try it you will realize why you left it alone think about it and do the RIGHT thing. Take Care Of Home! Take your wife out dance all night and let her (ex-GF) see what she missed out on. If she was a B*tch then she is probably a bigger B*TCH now. You feel me ? Think about your kids stop it before it goes to far. You have a beautiful woman that has given you two beautiful kids dont mess that up.
2006-12-05 09:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Quella W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with hi there. If you are unhappily married talk to your wife and see if there is any connection there, maybe it can be remedied. If not move on. I have been in the role of your ex girlfriend. I don't want to leave my family, but I want to be with my first love from 15 years ago because the connection is there -- I had now idea how important having that connection in your life is. Anyway, its not going to happen between me and first love but I do feel its important to try and bring the connection to life with my husband. Otherwise I will need to move on, not because of an ex boyfriend, but because without it we are just roommates and that is not what I want for my life.
You have a lot to think about. Good luck to you.
2006-12-05 09:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may end up left with only disapointmant if u leave your family for this woman. bet u are magnigying the problems u have with your wife about now, bet this other woman looks pretty good to u. what are u running away from? if u spent the time u spend in the bar at home working on your relationship with your own wife, and said some prayers, bet u that things would change for the better. u know what u got with your wife, but u don't know what you will get with this woman, but remember how it was with her 10 years ago, if it was so wonderful why did you and her break up?
2006-12-05 09:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt like killing your father, would you do that? It's just a feeling. Think about why that didn't work out, and why you are where you are today with your wife and 2 great kids. At least she apologized for being a b*tch.
2006-12-05 09:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by lupering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Do it you have more to lose...You need to talk to your wife and see what is making both of ya unhappy, if ya cant keep things together, then Wait till the divorce is final, then hit it, but don't get involved
2006-12-05 10:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes sorry she was a ***** 10 years ago.lmao. no shes not. bet if she ran across you on the streets and you was hungry and homeless she would not of apologized and told you she still had feeling for you. shes married not to mention so are you. he she will cheat on him she will cheat on you. if you 2 have not cheated yet you soon will. if she will cheat on her husband she will cheat on you. but then your also a cheat so i don't guess it would matter to much. you 2 might just deserve each other.
2006-12-05 09:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are suffering from "grass is greener" syndrome. Put the energy and emotion you think you feel for your ex into your marriage, you have too much to lose and will regret it if you betray your family.
2006-12-05 09:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess with other men's property.
2006-12-05 09:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a wife that had this happen to her..... i strongly beleive in being up front with your wife about your feelings. talk to her and see if your connection is still there. if its not then you were honest at all cost and in the end respect will still be there
2006-12-05 09:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by hi there 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love your wife? If you really do, dump the bar and that past
2006-12-05 09:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Richard J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋