would u believe my ex arrived at my house today and declared his undying love for me,still in shock 2 b honest,hes the alcoholic that went in2 rehab and met a heroin addict and moved in with her 3 months ago,3 years we were 2gether!i dont no wot to do or how i feel,2 weeks ago even i think i wld have jumped at the chance 2 get back with him,my friends and family will not b happy if i get back with him.help please thankyou.x
2006-12-05 09:16:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thankfully, I've never been in this position, nor do I wish to be but, I've seen a couple of friends in similar situations and I have watched them gor from vibrant and alive to shadows of their former selves. Why? Well, I truly believe that being with an addict who hasn't cleaned up, or even tried to, is like having the life sucked out of you.
3 years is a long time to be stuck with an alcoholic and the very fact that after what he did to you, you're even THINKING about taking him back suggests you have that old co-dependency thing going on.
Don't get me wrong, you truly sound like a sweet, genuine person but making yourself a martyr to somebody else's addiction isn't the way to go.
yes, it's nice to feel needed but, does need qualify you as a person? No.
2006-12-06 08:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chanelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask why he is back, I bet that he broke up with the addict and is falling back on you where he had it good.
If he loved you so much he would not have left you, don't get me wrong people make mistakes but 3 months - that seems a long time to realise you are his true love.
You will at the stage where you are beginning to get over this person, which is good as I hope you judge with your head and not your heart.
2006-12-05 09:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of undying love would make him move in with another girl he met in rehab? Your family is right about not being happy if you get back with him. He sounds like someone who needs help at least with his addiction problem...and probably more! if you're thinking about whether you should get back together with him, there's obviously a part of you that doesn't think it's a good idea...listen to that part of you!
2006-12-05 09:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Connie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into anything to quickly. Tell him you need time to think and see how he reacts. Does he have anywhere to live apart from yours or the heroin addicts house? If not they could of realised it's not going to work and he's come back to you for security. Would you ever be able to forget that he left you anyway?
2006-12-05 09:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish it for good. I know it's incredibly hard as I finished with my ex because she was an alcoholic, not because I fell out of love.
There's only so much support you can offer and there's only so much **** a person can take.
I left her three years ago and she's still an alcoholic, which somewhat vindicates my decision.
I knew it was the right decision to make at the time but it didn't make it any easier.
2006-12-05 09:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by J Tourettes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on baby he doesn't know what he wants. he goes to rehab meets a hot chick he cant resist, moves in with her suddenly the grass isn't greener on the other side so back he comes to you. Great for you but what about the next temptation to come along you ganna take him back again and again? find a real man who knows what he wants not a little boy who is tempted all the time.
2006-12-05 09:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Undying love? so much love that he left you to live with a heroin addict, and expects to have everything the way it was after he damaged it? He doesn't respect you and i don't think he respects himself. You deserve better than an alcoholic to drag you down.
2006-12-05 09:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him your courting a Jiujitsu expert who purely have been given out of detention center for tearing off a clingy little asshole's hands. Then if he nonetheless telephones you as much as insult you get a bar placed on his variety. If he nonetheless incorporates on then call the law enforcement officers some restraining order, they probably wont pay attention except you're making an attempt to truly block him out of your existence your self first (counting on united states of america of place of residing needless to say).
2016-10-04 22:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life love............if it was me I would run as fast as I could in the other direction....
You would not have a good basis to start again (no trust after the him running off)
He is an addictive person and always will be, it would only take one excuse to have a drink etc........bet he doesn't work.....
U could not possibly choose someone worse if you met someone new
Hope u end up happy xxxxx
2006-12-05 09:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform him your relationship a Jiujitsu informed who just got out of jail for tearing off a clingy little asshole's hands. Then if he still telephones you up to insult you get a bar placed on his quantity. If he nonetheless consists of on then call the police officers a couple of restraining order, they mostly wont pay attention until you make an effort to truely block him out of your life your self first (relying on country of residence of path).
2016-08-10 00:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋