2006-12-05 09:15:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would just tell your mom to take you to an abortion clinic and have her ground you until your 18! Or go through with the pregnancy but give the baby up for adoption...then get grounded until your 18! I never even thought of sex at the age of 14!! I lost my virginity at 19 and got pregnant pretty much right away....but me and my fiance are financially stable, legal adults, and understand all the responsibilities of being parents!
2006-12-05 09:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by mcm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of had this same situation before, except I was not 14 and I was across country at the time when i found out. I remember that all I wanted to do was to "come clean" and share my news with my family. I was really REALLY scared at what would happen. It felt like my parents would kill me. I had to keep reasuring myself (and this part might sound stupid) that legally, my parents could not harm me....let alone kill me. Plus even if they tried, I had a child inside of me. Their grand child, which I knew that they would not want to harm. It took me alot of courge to suck up and call them. What I mean is even though I was across country, I was still afraid of them, even though they could not reach through the phone.
Be honest. The sooner the better. Believe me, when they say morning sickness, it's not Just the morning. Everybody is different. I was sick literally 24/7 for a while even when I got rest and ate properally. It will be harder to hide than you think. Not just physically, but it will emotionally drain you which is not healthy for you or the baby either.
I think that it is not necisarally the fact that they will be pissed at you, even though it might seem that way (which is a natural first reaction at times) but I think deep down they will feel disapointed in themselves. Wondering where "they went wrong." Dont feel like your a screw up. You are bringing something wonderful to this world. It's a part of life. Yes, it came so soon, but after its all over and with the support of your friends and family you will have a beautiful baby. And I garantee the first time you hear your own child that came from you, you will ball your eyes out uncontroalably.
I know that they rather have you come to them and tell them and talk openly with them than try to hide it or decide to get rid of it. It will help you sort out your emotions. I found out that some how mothers end up finding out in the long run.
((sorry about spelling mistakes, I tried to use the spell checker but it would not work. >.<))
2006-12-05 17:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by freaky pixie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how you and your parents communicate. If you believe they are going to be too mad for you to handle ask a family member or friend that you trust to speak to them or accompany you to speak to them. There is never an easy way. They will be disappointed but truth be told you dont know what mistakes your parents made when they were your age. Even the ones who are judging you have their dirty little secrets. There is no guarantee that we will not fall at one time or the other in this life. The trick is to get up and learn from the fall. My prayers are with you.
2006-12-05 17:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, I'd be questioning why you're 14 and pregnant....
I've always said, if you can't at least drive, you're too young to consider having sex....
You're still a child at 14, still growing, still developing so why are you trying to rush into growing up by having sex and getting pregnant???
If you were my kid, I'd be disappointed in you for that reason... you're only a child once and you should enjoy it and not be in such a rush to grow up. Your parents are still trying to raise you, they don't want to raise your kids and you at the same time... you should be an adult and old enough to take care of yourself before you consider having a baby of your own.
Good luck, I'm not sure what else to say. Be honest with your parents and his (he has to tell his parents he knocked you up too and he has to be there to support the child and you... )
2006-12-05 17:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough question .It really depends on how your relationship is with them .If they have an open door policy ...ie We can talk about everything then that is good but if they are uptight no communication parents then that would be hard ..I always told my children they could come to me about everything and I would probably raise 9 kinds of hell and they would peel me off the ceiling but I would eventually calm down ..Then we would talk .Pray about it ....and I will pray for you as well Take care .
2006-12-05 17:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it can be to tell your parents...i mean im 17 & im still having trouble trying to tell my mom...ive known that ive been pregnant for at least 2 months...& i still dont know how to tell her...i mean i have an idea like asking her if she could help me sign up for some programs to help me with the baby...but also my boyfriend doesnt want me to tell her just yet...i believe the easiest way would to just sit down & be like mom i know ive made so many mistakes before & this is the biggest one so far...i hope you can except the fact that im going to have your grandbaby & hope that you will still love me even though this is happening (just so you get the simpathy note in so they cant like yell at you work up some tears lol jp jp) but honestly just straight out tell them whats happening dont make it sound bad either..if your planning on keeping it tell them that & you want them to help you with some programs & see if you can start doing homeschool if your in at least 9th grade...that would probably make living with a baby easier since you wouldnt have to leave so long while in school & such...i dont know...just stay calm & make sure they know that you know what youve done & are planning to do
2006-12-05 17:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Twinkle in My Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you be in such a hurry to even think of having sex at 14 years old. You should be concentrating on yourself and going to school and trying to build a future for yourself instead of being out and about having sex at 14
2006-12-05 17:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine this is going to be easy! I don't believe there will be any easy way to tell them all your going to have to do it just tell them and if your parents really love you there going to help you true this. They may be mad at first but there going to come around
2006-12-05 17:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK after my aunt Miami that's just what i called her i don't know why i took to my aunt peaches and i didn't tell my aunt peaches i was pregnant till i started to show she thought i was getting fat but she kinda understood but i wouldn't wait cause it hurts you more than anything and the baby's health
2006-12-05 18:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by daysha w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly just tell them yeah its hard and scary trust me i know but htey have to know for all sorts of reasons especially emergency reasons but first i would think about what you want to do whether you want to keep it or put it up for adoption just remember it is your choice no one else can tell you what to do with your baby. also just a little tip i would have the "guy" there to just to help you out if he is gonna stick around
2006-12-05 17:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by bjames_0050 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋