Is it better to know exactly how many people they've had sex with, or to not have a specific number?
If you know exactly how many previous partners your Husband/Wife has, how do you feel about it?
2006-12-05 09:07:51 · 21 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends on you. if you're comfortable ask. if your spouse is comfortable, he/she will tell. If not, it's okay. as long as the no. isn't big 2 or 3 digits, it's okay with me. my hubby asked me and since my no. is bigger than his, i told him a lie, and he just smiled knowing i was lying and said it's okay. >_^
2006-12-05 09:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter. If you are concerned about history then don't discuss it.
The flippent answer is the same or less than you do, but that isn't fair because many people have extremely different views on the number of partners that are "acceptable".
Rather than ask how many? why not discuss sexual beliefs in general. It may in fact open a line of communication that can be extremely important later on in the relationship. Issues such as frequency, style, intamacy, certain activities, monogamy, multiple partners etc. should all be discussed. Begining with openness will help not hinder the relationship, and then the number of partners will matter less.
2006-12-05 09:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by rehobothbeachgui 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think knowing not just how many, but who, is important, because I've known several couples where someone fell for a previous partner's "knowing which buttons to push." As long as it all stays in the past, I'm okay with my wife's past and she's okay with mine.
2006-12-05 09:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a non-experience? Are you there to keep attendance of companions drowsing which include your important different? Why can't you safeguard a particular element of decency in asking questions? Is it any way affecting the life of each person psoitively? question concerning to pre-marital sex having availed solutions, you should make a sequence of such filthy affiars isn't proper less than any situation.
2016-10-16 11:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by uday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, any number is an "acceptable" number. If I accept the person, I accept his past. I wouldn't marry someone who is overly irresponsible or reckless, so I trust that the number is reasonable.
I don't really care about the "specific number"; I don't feel that "the number" needs to be disclosed (personally, I don't know the exact "number" even for myself, it's not that important). Anyone who placed great importance on "the number" would most likely be disqualified from my list of acceptable partners sooner or later, anyway.
I never asked my husband about his "number"; he would be welcome to volunteer it, but I wouldn't ask for such deeply personal information. I love him and respect him for what he is, it includes his past AND his "number".
2006-12-05 09:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. If you are comfortable with knowing then go for it. My husband knows and he has a fit. So i think it is better not to know. I know how many he has had and that was in the past. I cant do anything to change that so why worry about it now. He is with me.
2006-12-05 09:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
0 and 0 ! Has anyone remembered saving yourself for the one and only true love???????? GEeeez answer after answer are all multiple... Is this society really that obsessed with sex.
I wonder why the U.S. divorce rate is at an all time high of 60/40??????
Good luck people.
2006-12-06 08:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by jmilil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had 4, at age 24. I dont mind the number but the fact that some werent really gf's did bother me (and still does) but you have to let it go otherwise its only trouble.
2006-12-05 09:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really and truly think they are going to tell you, I think not.
That is a number that I don't believe your going to hear, because it just don't work that way. Everybody has a right to privacy and how many times her privacy has been invaded is only for her to know.
2006-12-05 09:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is just that the past! I do not need to know about my husbands partners nor does he need to know mine! What we do need to know is that we are both monogamous and we are both "clean". I could care less as to how many he has had and it makes no impact as to our lives now! as long as we are both healthy and clean and monogamous then the past is just that the past
2006-12-05 09:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters much. Usually if a guy or girl has had a few sexual partners it's better. Gives them both a better experience to pleasure their new partner.
2006-12-05 09:12:17 · answer #11 · answered by Zig Zag 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋