I took a pregnancy test a few minutes ago and it was positive, my husband hasn't been home for 2 weeks, what should I do?
2006-12-05 09:01:24 · 44 answers · asked by Wendy Love Muffin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well odvioulsy you shouldn't have cheated to late now own up to what you did and tell him the truth!!!!
2006-12-05 09:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by bjames_0050 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's kind of a problem.
Are you SURE it's not your husband's? If your cycle is 28 days or so you likely ovulated about two weeks ago. Did you have sex right before he left? I hope the answer is yes.
Also, it would help to know when you had sex with this other guy. If it was a LONG time ago then it's probably not his, if it was like two days ago it's probably not his either.
Either way you have to confess your infidelity and hope your husband doesn't leave you over this. Promise to be faithful and go to couples counseling. Or if he's not home enough for that, go to counseling alone to help you stop cheating and work on your relationship with your husband.
If you got a positive test, you don't THINK you're pregnant. You KNOW you are. You need to get prenatal care (that is, if you're having this baby), and when you go to your first appointment ask about a DNA test to find out who the father is. There is a way to do it before the baby is born nowadays. That might be an option for you, though it is more expensive.
Good luck. You'll need it.
2006-12-05 09:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl why in the world would you be cheating and you are married. You should always use protection. I'm not judging you. Don't aborted the child because it is a sin and the child didn't do anything wrong, you did. It could still be your husband and you should tell him about it because he may still stick by you. You never know. Hopefully, everything will work out for the best but think of this as a WAKE UP CALL!!!!! Don't make the same mistake twice but that mean the first mistake wasn't one.
2006-12-05 09:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sunset D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the other guy looks like your husband in some ways,then have the baby!
Oh but ---he hasn't been home in two weeks,,hum That's a tough one! Having an abortion is a personal and tough decision,and Ireally don't think you should GO that way.
I just wish you good luck in the near future!
2006-12-05 09:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is what happens when you have unprotected sex with another man while your husbands away from home.. You need to be honest with him and let him make the decision whether to stay or leave. Its not fair to keep lying to him.
Note: In most states if the baby was concieved during marriage even if a paternity test proves the baby isnt the husbands he is still legally the father and responsible for the child.
2006-12-05 09:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him, not only does he have the right to know, but so does the paternal dad, and the child. It will come out some day, might as well be now. Think what if something were to happen in 20 years and your child needed some blood, or a transplant, anything is possible, tell him now... if its not his baby. Why are you married if you are cheating? and getting pregnant with possibly somone elses child?
2006-12-05 09:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Get an abortion, you could ask the other guy to help pay. It will be very hard to hide the medical procedure from your hubby
2. tell your hubby the situation and see what happens.
3. try to pass it off as your husband's but if he ever asks for paternity test, you will have lied. I don't recommend this.
4. tell your hubby and have the baby and choose adoption?
5. think deeply about how you're living your life and if it's what you really want. I've been there and i'm happier now that i live an honest life.
do something honest.
2006-12-05 09:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well, you need to see a doctor and see how far along you are. you would have to be more than 2 weeks pregnant for it to show up on a test. start from the first day of your last period and go from there. i would fess up though. the guy at least deserves to know that the child might not be his.
2006-12-05 09:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there sorry you got such bad answers, it might and might notbe your husbands..umm tests usualy dont become positive until a few weeks eather way do you could easely be your husbands, cuz it takes at least 2 weeks before they can actually detect if your positive or not, but maybe you should talk to your husband about it anyways, i good relationship needs comunication girly. but thats all up to you.. i wish you the BEST of luck..
2006-12-05 09:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is not your husbands and you do not want him too find out , then have an abortion. I am not sure how you feel about abortions.. or you can have the baby and give it up for adoption and last you can just be honest with him and tell him the truth..
Are you guys having problems in your relationship? Good Luck too you...
2006-12-05 09:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not trying to be mean but while you was with this other guy why ur hubby was away what was you thinking im married this is wrong i could come up pregnant now you have losted ur hubby and if you have kids by ur hubby you have lost them too cause he can take them from you wow not a smart move you made if you are thinking too kill the baby think again it will always come out and you will be in BIGGGGGGG TROUBLE WITH GOD HIM SELF TELL UR HUBBY WHY YOU DID IT AND HOPE 4 THE BEST YOU GOING TO NEED IT IM SURE
2006-12-05 09:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by ann h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋