How hard is reconciliation after a separation?

Answer 1

My answer is coming from what happened in my life, I have not looked at the other answers.
A few things in taking that step;
1. If the separation was a long period of time, how do you feel about going back?
2. Is it for love or family reasons?
3. Is the love you have the same love you had before or a new kind of love?
4. Are you ready to change your life around? Remember, you can't go back the same way cuz that's why you are not there now!
5 Is your partner willing to change?
6. Things are not going to be the same, You want something new!
7. You have to be willing to put the past behind you and leave it there.
8. If you see a good future in this relationship GO 4 IT
9. Never talk about what happened while you were apart **** after you to talk at the reunion. It's not important
10. Find New Love in each other and Be Happy

Answer 2

I think it really depends on why you separated in the first place. If it was due to a cheating spouse, it can be very difficult as there will be big trust issues involved. If it was due to a marriage breakdown where both parties agreed on a break for whatever reason, not cheating it would probably be a lot easier. Both parties need to be open, honest and willing to reconcile or it will not work. The main ingredients you need in any reconciliation are definately LOVE and TRUST. Hope this helped.

Answer 3

SO HARD!!! My husband and I seperated after two years of marriage. He filed for divorce and we had a very ugly 6 months dealing with custody issues. Three days before our mediation and paper signing date, we ended up getting back together... We were so happy. For about 3-4 months.

The problem is that people don't really change. They can work to improve their habits and reform a little, but eventually they slip back into who they are, and who they are is the person you left (or left you) in the first place. If there was a reason to split up before, there will be again. Now, I am back where I was before, but since we accrued so much legal debt the first round and I agreed to leave my job at his request, there's no way I could afford to leave again...

If you decide that you do want to reconcile and both of you are willing to acknowledge your flaws and work on it together, my advice would be to seek a counselor that can help you work through past issues, they will haunt you forever, so you need to learn how to deal with them appropriately. Best of luck in whatever you decide! ♥

Answer 4

well if you both want to just go to marriage counsiling and you do your part and dont shove past mistakes at each others faces. Start over and try to do better make sure you realize that u both made mistakes and its ok now bc u are working on them now to fix the problems that u had. Make sure you go to marriage counsiling and work at it. It going to take time to get back to where u guys were when u fist got married but at least u guys are trying. i am glad u guys are trying again. try not to bring up waht u guys did while seprated that might make things worse. IF u do have do not get angry understand it ok.
GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

depends on if there are two people wanting to reconciliate or one







.

Answer 6

It certainly depends on the trust and Faith you guys have. I tried to work my marriage out, but found it too unbearable to deal with... We wanted counseling but could not afford prefessional help...AND WE NEEDED IT BADLY. I thought we could overcome it, but she couldn't take the anger I had inside from what she had done.

But all in all it alll depends on the individuals' dedication to making the marriage work.

Answer 7

It depends on how hard you want to work on your relationship. I've seen it done successfully, but both of you have to really want it and be willing to sacrifice whatever is needed to heal the hurts.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

depends on the two people involved

if they are both really wanting to make it work--piece of cake

but if only one of u is really into making it work---it will be difficult

Answer 9

A lot depends on the people involved.

What do you wish to accomplish? Do you even wish to accomplish it? What will you sacrifice to get it?

Answer 10

Determining if the issues have really been resolved.
They need to be completely resolved or they will re-surface.
My opinion.