I read in an email of my husbands who was sending it to his mother saying that 'i do his head in that he would of left me ages ago if it wasnt for his baby'. When i said 'go' he said no and that he wants to try and work it out.Our marriage of just 7 months seems to be drifting apart, and he just doesnt care. sob........
2006-12-05 08:58:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, if your not going to be happy with the guy then you leave him. IF you can work it out, then work it out. Children who are stuck in the middle of an unhappy relationship are much worse off than children whos parents are divorced, especially if the parents split when the child is young.
2006-12-05 09:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the house actually belongs to the wife's mother still, no one has any 'right' to that house but the actual owner. It's not the wife's property, it's her mother's. If the children have assets, those are not up any division of marital assets. They belong to the children, so the father has no claim on them. The children do not 'automatically' go with the mother, however, especially for younger children, it is more common. What is in the best interests of the children will guide the decision. Regardless of the wife's income, the father will likely be ordered to pay a portion of his income as child support if the wife is granted primary physical custody. Child support depends on who the kids live with most of the time. The father may petition for primary physical custody or joint custody, but will have to establish why it would be in the kids' best interests.
2016-05-22 22:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the reason why the husband doesn't leave is because of the psychological effects of a broken family. If the man leaves the kids would think that they have abandoned there mother and would create tensions between them and the father. It is really hard for both parties to let go because of the kids. Everybody deserves happiness and I reckon somebody has to give. Talk to one another and establish some sort of respect.
2006-12-05 13:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is so spineless that he tells other people how he feels, then you should get rid. He is using his child as an excuse not to leave because he dare'nt. Your relationship is a complete mess,
1. because you apparently do his head in.
2 You obviously don't talk
£ Why did you feel the need to go through his emails, obviously there are turst issues with you as well.
Bin The Spineless Bastard
2006-12-06 04:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some counselling and quick because if the 2 of you are not going to work out then it is better you split sooner rather than later for both yours and the baby's sake. I really do hope you work it out but more harm can be done in the long run by staying together.
2006-12-05 09:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two points you made:
1. You have a baby - this can be tiring and it may take time to get used to this new way of life with a third party to consider.
2. Arrange a baby sitter and arrange a night out now and again to put the spark back into the relationship. You are a parents jointly, your partner needs to feel included.
2006-12-05 19:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by arty_green_lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They stay out of misguided sense of loyalty. They can;t see the woods for the trees.
What most men don't realise is, is that children can tell when there are problems between their Mum & Dad.
Unless your husband is prepared to elaborate, & discuss why you 'do his head in', there really doesn't seem to be anyway this can have a happy ending. It speaks volumes that when there is a problem he tells his Mum, rather than discusses it with you.
You, your baby, deserve happiness in your life, & if your husband doesn't understand that, then you have to move on.
2006-12-05 09:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Maybe you 2 should try counseling. It takes a while to get used to someone and fall into married life. Tell him to be honest with you and tell him how much that hurt you to read that. He needs to tell you now instead of 7 years down the road. But if he still doesn't want to leave, try the counseling bit and work on your marriage.
2006-12-05 09:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're husband stays with you because he wants to. Men leave their kids all the time.
Either he still loves you, but you do his head in from time to time (and doesn't everyone feel this way occasionally in a relationship - have you never said it about him to anyone?)
or he doesn't want to split the money & pay child support for the next 18 yrs
2006-12-06 01:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by del-d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will just be flat out honost with you.most me that feel this way are selfish, cheap bastards that are willing to stay with someone that they cant stand just so they dont have to pay child support. he is probably an imature bastard that is regretting the permant decision of marriage when his friends may be single. dont let him hurt any further. confront him about the problem. remember that the both of you swore before god that better or worse you will stay together. use divorce as your final option. go to counseling and dont be afraid to talk to him about what you found in the email. dont spend the rest of your life feeling like **** because a cheap asshole isnt being man enough to take care and love his family. men like this give us a bad name. he needs to wake the **** up and take responsibility and realize that he is married and he promised to love you forever. not for 7 months.
2006-12-05 09:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by iluvwetsnatch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋