I never ask for advice but I may need it. Here it goes So I met this guy online we talked for 3 months before I met him(in august), He is cool I like him. I'm cool to him and he likes me alot. So we made it official( in October). Problem!!!! He lives in Texas and I in Colorado. I was single for 3 1/2 years before this just dating nothing serious and now I want to be in a relationship but Long distance is terrrible he's not here for a lot of things. I knew this going into the relationship but it is getting worse everyday. So here is my questions should I break up with him, wait around to see how things go, or ask him to move here? I want to ask him to move here because he wants to be a Police Officer and before I met him he was already thinking about moving my way
2006-12-05 08:46:34 · 10 answers · asked by ~InEvItAbLe~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you ask him what his thoughts are on where he sees the relationship going. Listen to his viewpoint and if it sounds like he would be interested in moving your way, ask him.
2006-12-05 08:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Scott T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel this close to him ask him if he would consider
moving to Colorado, but you know Texas is a beautiful state. But he may consider your offer or perhaps if you could maybe you would consider moving to Texas. Your correct a long distance romance takes it toll and you get very lonely. You know the old saying Absence makes the heart grow fonder for somebody else. You have already said he isn't there for some of your activity and I'm sure he feels the same.
You need to get together again sat down and have a long talk and see what you can work out a far as being together. Let me
wish you both the best that life has to offer, good luck in both of your lives.
2006-12-05 09:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a big Ego, you have a stick up your posterior orifice. You are the sort of person that runs about telling everyone the right way to behave. You would not step out of your house without every hair in place. The concepts of "Teachers pet, prissy, restricted, know it all, nosey, rule governed, pedantic, and extremely ridged come to mind. I suppose there is nothing wrong with being mentally handicapped by a dogmatic interpretation of life and the people around you. Perhaps you will make a good CPA or Police Officer. Whatever you end up doing you will be the best at keeping everyone and everything in order and following the rules. Nothing is more important that tradition and rules. (What's wrong with that? Well, I prefer a whole lot more fun in my life. I'm going to let the Id out and do a lot more playing.) Have you thought about a career in the Military? If you can get thought the lower ranks without losing your mind, being in charge of a bunch of men would be the perfect place for you.
2016-05-22 22:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him you should be willing to consider moving and certnly nt be thinking about breaking it off just because right now it is a little hard.
If you'd rather not date him than have to deal with the work of the relationship then it probably isn't really love.
If it IS love then you need to discuss moving to the next level of commitment with him and discuss the pros and cons of a move for eiher of you. You should both be able to work out what to do to both of your satisfaction. :)
My husband lived in Ioowa when we were dating, it was not only easier for him to move as I owned a place and he was renting but he liked it in Colorado more so ours was an easy choice. Yours may be a more difficult decision but if you belong together you can work it out.
2006-12-05 08:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by kirknits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean you've never discussed moving closer together to each other, why not throw it out in a casual conversation and see what kind of response he gives you, long distance relationships take too much work, what's the point?
2006-12-05 08:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u wish to continue with this relationship--then yes--one of u must move---
otherwise end the relationship
and yes, sorry to say, I have done the same thing and ended the relationship. LDR are very difficult at best
2006-12-05 08:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that a long distance realtionship is to much for you to handleand either he moves to be with you are yall nee dto go yall own ways
2006-12-05 08:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by allison b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt to bring it up in casual conversation and just feel him out. Good luck!
2006-12-05 08:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should express to him how you feel u would like to see him more maybe ask him how he feels to move closer to you and off his response make a decesion
2006-12-05 08:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance things don't usually work out
2006-12-05 08:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋